It's not hard for me to get a girl's number at a night club. Often I go out with my roommates who are great dancers, we have fun, are the centers of attention and dance with a lot of girls. Occasionally I'll single one out, dance with her most of the night and bag some phone numbers. It's the follow up to this that is my sticking point, hard to take it from there.

Tonight was no different. Hit the club with my roommates but we all split up and did our thing. Found an HB7 to dance with and ended up on her all night. She was definitely feeling me, left to check on her roommate a couple times who was dealing with a creep but always came back shortly. Thought she was gonna fall back when she found out I was 21(she was 24) but didn't seem to bother her. By the end of the night things were getting hot and heavy, didn't try to kiss close but we were dancing pretty close, a lot of ass-grabbing, etc. Her roommate wanted to go, she went and made sure she was all right then came back to me and gave me a hug, I got her number. She lives a bit far from me(about an hour), I live in a college town, she actually lives close to where I grew up. We texted a couple cordial "Got home safe" texts tonight and I ended it there. Just wondering what the best approach is to take it from here since I seem to be stuck on this.

Work on establishing some common interests and setting up a day 2 before you get her phone number. That way she will already have a reason to see you again. Even if you don't actually set a day 2, atleast if you know something that you and her can do together, mention it. Then invite her out via phone.

Majikalmethod's suggestion about setting up day 2 before you leave the club is a good idea.

You CAN get to a 1st date by texting, which can be good if you tend to get a little stressed on the phone, like I do.

Suggestions:

• Start off by saying "Glad you got home safe... don't do anything risky like texting me back, you might get addicted to me!" or something like that.
• Say "You know that when you danced with me all hot and heavy, everyone else in the room thought you were my girlfriend. So you might as well fulfill their expectations and go out with me".
• If she responds positively to that, tease her gently: "I know, I know, you can't think of anybody but me, but you've got to try. Do your homework and if you get it all done by the end of the week you can maybe go out with me."
• If she responds well to that, try "Ok, so let's say you've been a good girl and I agree to go out with you. Where are you taking me?" And when she responds to that, say "Sounds good... I'll be there [at place X] at [time Y]. Don't be late or I'll start hitting on the waitress" (or whatever).

Try it and report back to us.

~50

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