Long story short, I was never good at picking up girls, but that was OK because I only went after the ones that really made me do a double take. Not just because of the way they looked, but there was always something about them.

This one girl I've been trying to talk to responds from time to time, and sometimes even questions me and says "Why me? Why are you so persistent". I tried to explain that I just really wanted to get to know her, that's it.

Any other time, she won't respond.

Trust me, I get the hint OK. It means F*$% off!

But, if I only tried to be friendly - why?

I have no idea why I like this girl. I've been told by other girls that I'm intimidating, some people are, some people aren't.

For me, it's because I come off as intelligent and social. That is what a few of my (girl) friends, have said to me. Not in a cocky way, but it's true. I always try to educate myself, and I talk to everyone and everyone.

To expand on that, I don't get why I'd like a girl who's conversation skills are that of a BRICK. But for some reason this girl is different.

You could call me a creep, sure. But...no, no you couldn't. I don't go through her Facebook images from months ago and comment/like them. I never do anything - EVER, outside of simply saying "Hey, haha, maybe you'll respond this time".

Sometimes people on this website respond with a fairly rough overtone, but hopefully you guys will understand that I am really just a kind/social guy trying to figure out why this girl won't talk to me.

I've had people (Guys/girls) ALL THE TIME text me, have me not respond, shoot me 4 more texts before I finally do. HELL, I do that with my friends as well! It's not because we're ignoring each other or find each other creepy for trying to get in tact, so that's kind of why I'd say I'm moderately normal.

Thanks in advance everyone

BTW- Maybe it's simply not meant to be. I believe that everything happens for a reason. Who knows!?

Ok, this kind of sounds like the behavior of my last girlfriend shortly before we started dating and i f'd her brains out.

If you are as socially adept as you say you are, she very well may be intimidated. My last girlfriend was a freshman and I was a junior with tons of friends (girls and guys) before we started dating. She was a complete bore and wouldn't respond to most texts and would even at some points avoid me in person, which confused the hell out of me because she wasnt even that attractive and I had hooked up with much hotter girls. Not sure if this is the case with you, but it could be. How old is she?

I'm 21, she's 3 years younger.


So how did you end up getting her to talk to you?

The turning point was when her friend came into town and we were at the same bar. I started casually talking to her friend and eventually we got on the topic of my interest in this girl. Basically, I got her best friend's approval. Not sure if you can swing that without forcing it though.

I take the "Why are you so persistent" as a possible sign of her feelings of inadequacy towards you -- which you can turn into banging her if you play it right. You're a cooler, older dude and she's still a shy young girl, not really experienced in the dating world, so she's a little awkward for good reason.

What is the main difference in personalities when it comes to

-Get away from me you're a creep
-I'm intimidated by you, please keep trying to talk to me.

"Why me? Why are you so persistent"

Sounds like she's really insecure (as all girls are). Girls can be socially awkward around guys too. It sounds like she doesn't have much experience around guys and can't take a hint that you like her. Or she doesn't think its possible that a guy of your stature likes her. Just tell her she's cute or give her some sort of compliment. She how she responds then you will really know your answer.

Have you tried telling her explicitly in no uncertain terms that the reason for persistence is because you like her?

hmmm...

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Lol, I'm in same current situation with this chick doing the exact same thing to me, I came on this site to look at posts to give me ideas and to help me figure out the problem, When I figure it out, I will let you know and maybe it'll help you, but If you figure it out before I do, maybe you can tell me, Hope you don't mind me asking, I just find it funny that I come across your post that has exact same situation that I'm in. lol

Have you heard of real social dynamics?

This company talks about abundance, freedom from outcome, affirmations like "your more then enough," and that one ittus is coming out of scarcity.

any updates on this?

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I've tried once more, she won't respond. There is a limit that I have surely stepped over.

It goes from - Frequent, to Persistent, to annoying, to stalker.

I border the last two.

there are many other ways to get this girl let alone others...but what is most important is that you dont consider yourself stalker... if it bothers you that someone consider you a stalker its probably because deep down somewhere perhaps you also believe so... so get rid of the idea that you are bothering her... your having fun and you are persistent and you are allowed to make mistakes and even stupid mistakes like posting on their facebook anying repetitive messages big deal! you diodnt killed anyone...hehehe its totally OK...THERE IS NO LIMIT...

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My last girlfriend did the exact same thing. I had to go absolutely overboard with the compliments. Every single time I messaged her I said that I found the way she talked adorable, I teased her a lot, I said that she was cute, etc. It helps with getting the girl when she has low self esteem. She finally sent me a question in an anonymous inbox asking me why I would like her of all people: This is a shit test. I told her I don't know why, I just found her adorable and I do like her. Pretty soon I had her.

Keep this in mind though; doing it this way means that the girl has really low self esteem. My girl frequently got mad at me for no reason, would want to break up over the smallest things and such. You have to have a really solid frame and pound the idea into her head that you absolutely love all her quirks and who she is for who she is and eventually it'll tide over.

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Being nice to everyone (except the girls) is hot.

hmm this was very informative thnx!

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