I have this sticking point of losing girls 3-4 weeks in, where the attraction appears to go. This has happened in the last 3 relationships I've been in and I've lost the girl. I think a lot of it comes down to being to predictable in text-game with comfort rapport texting, but I always try to amp it up when I meet a girl on a date. This is the same with the last girl I've been seeing.

I've been seeing this girl for the past 3 weeks. It started really well, when I opened her in a club after strong ioi's from her. She said she wanted to see me again and was the one who initiated the texting and the first meet-up the next day. Since then we have meet 4 times (2 resulting in sex) and have texted each other everyday (bar one day at the beginning of the relationship). It was usually her that initiated conversation, and I would often not respond straight away and she would send several messages in a row. However, I ran into a problem at the weekend. She text me on Saturday morning asking how my meal was the night before? I replied and asked her how the show she went to was, and she replied randomly - that she was hurt I didn't visit her in work (as we had joked about it before on dates). Then on in the day I replied a few more times, and eventually saying we should rendezvous later in the night, and I could tell she wasn't up for it - because of the statement answers. So I left it, but she text me twice to ask where I was going that night? I replied back, and it turned out she was where I was heading anyway, so I seen her in the bar and we merged into the group of her friends. However, I could tell the vibe I got with her wasn't as strong as before (i.e. less strong ioi's - hair twirling and eye-contact, and she didn't ask about me as much). We were heading to a club, and she was heading to another bar before heading home with her girlfriend who was staying the night with her. She said they weren't going to a club, even though I told her we had guest list. I wasn't going to push it. I told her to text me when she got home because that's what she did with me (even though I waited for her to ask me usually). I got home much later that night, and said I just got home, but she missed a fun night out at club and casino. Got up next day - no response to that statement, even though before she would have. Now been a whole day without messaging, when normally she would text me something.

My question is has she lost attraction?
Did I become too boring/predictable? (I know I didn't use enough push/pull)
Can it be turned around, we talked about where we wanted relationship to go and she was keen to make it something more (which I wasn't opposed to either)
Should I text her something later tonight asking how she is and that we should meet up on Wednesday for drinks? Or would that seem like to easy a challenge.
She is attractive and I feel if I don't act soon, I will lose her for good (if not already)

Please can you help and advise, I really fed-up of f#cking up with girls and losing attraction 3-4 weeks into relationships.

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Can you show a text conversation between you two?

It's hard to say exactly from what you've put so far, she obviously really liked you to begin with. Defiantly avoid being predictable, you need to keep her guessing what your next move will be. Be spontaneous with your texts, talk about completely random shit and make her laugh. It does sound like you need to initiate the conversations more though...
It's never to late to bring it back if you play it right!

I seen her on the Thursday night when she came round to mine, but she had to leave half way through the night because she had work the next day. She text me that she wished she could have stayed over all night on the Friday after a few text exchanges and I left it there, then she went weird on Saturday.

I'll show the transcript, she text me first on Saturday morning with;

HB: Morning how was your meal? x
Me: Hi meal was good, but have it all to do again tonight! How was your show? x
HB: How awful. What a life you have =p my how was interesting...
HB: And sent tht text before I was supposed too! You didn't come see me in work. I am hurt.
Me: Aw, I'm sorry! Would've liked to have come How would you like me to make it up to you then? x
HB: Well you are just going to sing that was what we agreed upon x
Me: Fine, well how about we rendezvous later tonight? You can hear me then x
HB: Nope, that's cheating you aren't getting out of it that easily! x
Me: I meant meet later for a karaoke sesh! But if not, what did you have in mind for me instead? x
HB: That's cheating too! I am so so so full! I will think of something else for you. I have a few in mind...
HB: Where you heading tonight? x
HB: Where you heading tonight? x
Me: Away to head to .... bar right now. You? x
HB: I'm in ....bar x
HB: Just heading home now x
Me: That's me home now. But you so missed out on .....club and casino fun! x

That's the last conversation I had with her. I realise I was investing too much on the Saturday and she was giving me statements rather than asking questions which she normally does. These text span out over the course of the day and the last one I sent was at 4:30am on Sunday. Like I said, I bumped into her in the bar as me and my wing were going there anyway, but I don't know if she really wanted me there and there wasn't as many ioi's as before, but she was with a couple of her work friends.

I don't know whether to text her tonight as its been a few days since the last text (early Sunday morning) or should just leave it longer. I don't think she's going to text me straight off. Was going to text her for a meet-up on Saturday, or does that seem to available to text straight away? I don't think my text's came off as needy, but I certainly did over invest.... I really do hate texting!

Any further comments would be appreciated...

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