So I go to a division 1a SEC school and I transferred in here from another university which felt like a community college almost. At my last university I managed to score but so far here I have had zero lays (first semester at a new school). Oddly enough, I go to a university people say has the reputation of being a party school and having all the slutty girls and what not but I am doing MUCH WORSE here than I was at my previous school.

I have about 2 more semesters remaining here.

This is what I have noticed in my time here so far:

1. It is strongly centered around Greek Life, a lot of the good looking girls I see are in sororities and they seem to be in a tight group. Too late for me to join a frat.

2. Most of it is based off of social circle game and cold approaching on campus I heard from many (on here and other forums) can get you the creep status.

3. It seems like most people build their social circle their first two years of college and after that it is almost impossible to break in (I transferred into college after two years)

4. A lot of the parties that have the wild sex and all that going on seem to be invite only and are usually held by fraternities. I have no idea on how to get into these parties.

So that is my story. I have literally gone from 10 lays in 2012 to having no lays in 2013 at my new university.

Just what am I doing wrong? What am I not doing that I need to be doing?

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i know fuck all about the USA college scene but i wish i was involved due to stories ive been told! the best advice i can offer you from what you have said is, lean towards other colleges! i dont think a popular girl would go for anyone less than her social status at her own school so broaden your horizons and go for other girls! It may be cliche but dont hang around fucktards you want to pretend to be friends with just to meet girls!!

The hottest girls you will ever meet will be after college, i guarantee you that! so dont get to hung up on your final year!

1. It is strongly centered around Greek Life, a lot of the good looking girls I see are in sororities and they seem to be in a tight group. Too late for me to join a frat.

Start your own shit. I did in college. It was fake as hell and most people knew that, but it was still fun. Get a couple dudes together, throw a few parties, done.

2. Most of it is based off of social circle game and cold approaching on campus I heard from many (on here and other forums) can get you the creep status.

Who gives a shit? You most likely will not see these women again. Also, you don't need to stand in the middle of the quad to meet women.

3. It seems like most people build their social circle their first two years of college and after that it is almost impossible to break in (I transferred into college after two years)

Welcome to adult life. It doesn't get easier. Pretty soon, every one you know will start getting married and shitting out kids and get jobs and all sorts of other bull shit. Start building relationships that will last, because 90% of the ones you have now, will not.

4. A lot of the parties that have the wild sex and all that going on seem to be invite only and are usually held by fraternities. I have no idea on how to get into these parties.


Start your own party, or get together, or meetup group, or something. This is starting to sound like a cop-out.
So that is my story. I have literally gone from 10 lays in 2012 to having no lays in 2013 at my new university.

Just what am I doing wrong? What am I not doing that I need to be doing?

The point is, you're creating obstacles for yourself. I get that being away from what's comfortable and familiar is an uneasy, lonely feeling and even scary as hell, but use it to become a better you. Really focus on you and be independent. You'll thank yourself after college and into your 30s.

EDIT: I would also examine this need you feel to be validated by how many lays you're getting. Your self worth and desire should be internal, not dictated by external events.

okay most of what you suggested in undoable

many of my friends are not into the party lifestyle scene...

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It's doable, most of my friends didnt drink till after highschool when I got them to do so. if they dont wanna party make new friends. if you dont like to party learn day-game. parties are apart of the social circle, by creating your own party you inherit social circles. "If you build it they will come" you want to be the guy whose party people want to come to. Parties are like swirling pink vortexes of hotwetness. especially if you are the head of your dorm. Girls will pretend to fall asleep in your room cough cough.

I don't live in a dorm

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