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PUA is nothing more than fear-based, instilling the idea in guys that what they have to offer is not enough and that they have to apply a bunch of techniques to masquerade around as 'alpha males' to be a viable prospect for the women they desire.
What's ingenious about this sham is it appeals to the lack within most of us have, convinced we need to fill it with something external (e.g., goods and services - in short, being good consumers). Convince someone they are lacking something (which isn't very hard to do when they are already insecure in themselves and in need of external validation), and then tell them you have the fix/solution to remove or 'fill' that lack.
The hard truth for some of you is that pickup DOES NOT WORK. I can write a pickup manual in one line..."Women are drawn to confidant guys" - All this means is to live purposefully, live consciously (not allowing thoughts and feelings to consume you), go out there and figure out what values are important to you, who you want to be and pursue that, in short finding yourself as cliché as that may sound.
PUA is all about the quick fix, it is AT BEST a short-term panacea to loneliness but has no formulae for turning something into a real relationship, which is more egalitarian than anything else. Many so-called techniques espoused by self-proclaimed PUA gurus (who typically have no way of verifying their success to you, but rather are simply assumed to be successful with women) are designed to hit on a woman's inferiority 'buttons' so your perceived value becomes higher than hers. A lot of women are bemused with guys who use PUA techniques, and in fact will likely talk about you among her friends but more so to share in the laugh than speak about anything remotely flattering, at worse you'll come off as creepy. How is lowering one's self-esteem a healthy way of creating a potentially long-lasting fulfilling relationship? It isn't.
And for the guys who proclaim all they want is 'sew' their wild oats, you need not have any particular technique to go into a club and get laid as that's pretty much as hard as keeping afloat in a kiddie pool.
This will be too hard for many of you to accept, but PUA does not work.
I agree with some of the points you've made but you've articulated it in a manner that some people might find condescending, so it has faults in that regard. I agree that mental masturbation, step-by-step PUA is a recipe for disaster, and the people selling it are unscrupulous to say the least. I would not put well meaning life coach type people in this category, as they're genuinely trying to help others by giving practical, free advice. The thing about PUA gurus and the community in general, is that there are nuggets of wisdom that are useful and these can be used to better oneself - on the condition that you only take what you need out of it, i.e the practical, common sense advice. Beyond that it's useless and can be counterproductive - absolutely.
I think if the step-by-step pickup really does work on some rare occasions, then it is done by someone who is confident. But someone who is confident doesn't need pick up techniques anyway, so it's unnecessary at best. Two of your three last lines I absolutely don't agree with. There are many men out there who find picking women up immensely difficult - evidently. I suspect (on the basis of those two lines) that you may be a woman who can't relate, or perhaps a handsome man with decent confidence. Some people really are useless, and for a multitude of reasons, and some of them are being exploited by some PUA gurus. But others may just be taking the common sense route and could be doing just fine.
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