Here's the issue. I met this group of girls with my group of guy friends. My friend spent the whole night with her, didn't F close and I'm not sure if he even K closed, she didn't end up at his place when the night was over.

Some days go by and he told me that he F'd it up and have me the go ahead to move in. I got her number and started DHV'ing and she ended I staying over my place and I fingered her. She wouldn't let me F close. She brought up my friend, but she said the only reason the night ended up how it did was because she couldn't read me and he made it obvious that he was into her. She made it seem to me like she wasn't really feeling him anymore.

Tonight she called him wanting to just "talk" and this is around 1:30am. That's usually the time u call the person that ur feeling the most, well, for females anyways.

The thing is, I don't want her trying to be intimate with him and me since we're so close and he agrees. What should I do in this situation? I'm thinking about telling her to just go ahead and get to know him because I don't want her messing with both of us... Would that work in my favor? What would you guys recommend?

Sidenote: My friend said that she called him earlier and put it out in the open that shes feeling both of us. According to his words, she told him that she's feeling him more. I'm just not sure about that since she stayed with me and not him. He may be exaggerating with that part.

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Get some drinks bring her and your bro over flip a coin on who get to put it in the V and tag that shit.

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The thing is my boy doesn't want both of us messing with her at the same time. He wants her to choose without telling her to choose. I'm trying to figure out what to tell her to make sure that she chooses me.

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Well if your mates going to be a pussy like that then I say freeze her out and let him chase her into your arms. Stop texting/hitting her up. She's going to feel rejected by you and he's going to seem easy dropping his value and upping yours. Don't respond to her first text. When she sends you another text respond but don't be seeking rapport. Let her chase you a bit and then when there is an opening tell her when you have some time to come over, but you can't stay all night. When you get there re-iterate that you can't stay all night then escalate until you bang her.

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Will do. I'll let u know how it goes. Should I not respond to the first text at all or respond hours later with a quick short response? She as very prideful and stubborn so I might not get a 2nd text. When she asks why can't she stay all night (she will) which direction do I take that in? Tell her because I said so? Lol

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Wait 3 days then text her about something completely different. Also I was suggesting that when you hang out you go to her place not yours. Its kind of a personal thing of mine to lay a girl in her place because she will be more comfortable there and I don't like having to clean my sheets. In either case you can't stay there because you have work or something planned for the early morning. You are going to stay there but its just so she doesn't think you are planning to seduce her so she will drop her guard. Makes it easier to F close.

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I would bet she wants to do you both and probably at the same time.

She needs to make a decision rather than keeping the two of you in a holding pattern, which might very well start creating fissures, or even worse a rupture in the relationship between you and him.

For the welfare of the relationship with your friend I'd take the high road and move on. If she comes to you great, if not, so be it then it wasn't meant to happen.

Thanks guy for all of the replies. BIGGGG problem here with the wait 3 days thing. She text me this morning asking me what I'm doing on Friday. I'm guessing she's trying to ask me out on a date or something. We had something planned for Wednesday but I cancelled yesterday, told her I'll be busy. Do I not respond to the, "What are you doing this Friday?" text?

I think it's a "ball" that she has coming up. She needs a date for it, I feel like she's gonna ask me. To go or not to go...

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Why concern yourself with something that hasn't even happened yet. Get on with your life.

And yea, she wants to hangout Friday, agree to it (you want her anyway), just don't sound over-eager.

She's still showing both of us the same kind of attention. I'm thinking of calling/texting her and saying something like...

"Are you still feeling *friends name*? I can back off a little bit if you're trying to make something happen with him."

or something like...

"Maybe we should stay strictly friends. It seems like you're still feeling *friends name* a lot."

I just really want closure on the whole situation. I don't care if I lose her, at this point, I just don't want to beat a dead horse and waste time. If I can F-close her though, that's always preferred.

Would me texting/calling/meeting in person and telling her this make me seem AFC in any way? I guess that's my main question here, because I'm really considering saying something like this so I can get some closure on this specific situation.

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Tag team anybody?

Why are you even bothering with her? Just tell her you're not interested and move along. That seems like the kind of situation girls love to be in. How cute, a love triangle.

My friend isn't down for that.

I don't want to just move along when I have the chance to F this girl. lol I would feel like I'm passing the chance by.

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You don't have other options? Or she is worth the notch?

Be aggressive. If you want her, take her. Tell your friend that you want her. No need to be nice.

As for her, anyway you'll have to play if you want to close her, seems to me that she is playing you two. No?

Does she have a younger, more attractive sister?

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