A brutally honest man once told me that I am an 8.5. But once I started talking I turned into a 10. I'm not trying to sound narcissistic, just believe me when I say it's true. I get hit on about 3 times every work shift. Someone will ask for my digits 1-2 times a week. And that's from work and groceries, I'm not talking about bars.

When I'm in a bar, I feel comfortable that someone will talk to me and I'll have a blast. But sometimes, I'll notice a set going on. So of course, I'm interested. I usually walk over and make eye contact, maybe smile. He'll do the rest. Other times, some guys just have a handful and they don't notice me.

So my question is, what do I have to do to get picked as a target? How do I increase my chances? I have the looks and the personality, I just need him to initiate. Ok, I WANT him to initiate.

I can approach myself, but where's the fun in that?
Also, I have some approach tactics:
1. I order a beer and ask the bartender NOT to open it. Then I walk over to a guy and ask for help
2. I sit next to a guy and say "Can I sit here? My heels are killing me "
3. Sometime's I just use cheesy pick up lines. Like, are you a cheese burger cause those are nice buns. Guys think it's HILARIOUS.

I really wanna be chased though. By the best guy in the room. How do I increase chances? And what do you think of my tactics for approach? Advise is greatly appreciated!

So you're getting hit on non-stop and you want to be chased? I don't understand. Unless you're implying that only poor quality men are hitting on you as opposed to the hot guys you're craving for... In which case, that would be a perfectly normal bias since "you want what you can't have."

If you're looking to get approached more, simply make eye contact and smile. If you can't grab his attention, try being more boisterous/loud. Laugh hard. That should bring more attention to you. The peacocking theory can also be applied to women. Instead of showing more cleavage and skin, you can stay classy by dressing in bright colours to bring more attention to yourself.

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The answer is quite simple. What attracts a man in a woman is here physical appearance. Some men will find you attractive some won't. You can't have all men attracted to you it doesn't work that way. It seems to me your doing everything already that you can to increase your chances of being opened, Other than that its out out of your control.

Yeah maybe I'm being too greedy.

As for laughing loud, I laugh pretty loud already! I just can't hold it in. Any louder and it'll get obnoxious.

I'm not a fan of bright colors... You think peacocking with maybe a giant hair bow or an obscure piece would work the same? My closet is black red and grey. I don't plan on changing that.

It seems like you're doing it right for the most part. The only thing I can think of is that the guys you keep wanting to approach you might already have girlfriends or they might just be intimidated. Just make sure you always look approachable. Definitely try to look very friendly. If I'm thinking about approaching a girl, whether or not she has a smile on her face can be a deciding factor sometimes. This is true for me because I am still new to the game and still get nervous. When a girl isn't smiling sometimes it gives the vibe that she doesn't want to talk and that she'll just reject me right away. A girl that is smiling and laughing, however, comes off as very friendly and approachable.

I know I didn't give you a whole lot here but I hope I helped a little.

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You need to make it easy for guys to approach you. So if you don't like bright colours, wearing a unique item will make it easy for men to find an excuse to approach you. There was this girl who was wearing a Lego piece jewellery around her neck once. I commented on it and she told me it was a "huge conversation starter." So I'm sure you can find a unique item without making yourself feel uncomfortable about changing your wardrobe.

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since you're on this site and in the general questions section, i'm going to assume that you have seen some of the insecurities that a lot of men have. From what it sounds like, you want the most alpha/top dog in the room. If you're not getting approached by him, there are a few possibilities for why.

1. He is taken. At a club it is less likely but still very possible.
2. He is not interested. Maybe you look like his ex who he absolutely despises for whatever reason. Nothing you can do about that, or any other possible occurrence like this.
3. He doesn't have the balls. As i said before, there are a lot of guys with a range of insecurities. The list is literally endless.

Based on these reasons for why he wouldn't approach you, think about what you can do to minimize them as possibilities.

1. You can't do anything about. Shits happens.
2. Very little you can do about it. Maybe show a little more cleav, dance more sexually, etc. sexy things that would arouse his interest.
3. The most out of these factors that you can do something about, but, not coincidentally, also probably the least that you should do about. Realize that if he doesn't have the balls to approach you, then he probably doesn't have the confidence you desire in your man. If you don't care about this factor, and would like to judge for yourself after talking to him, then you should make yourself seem as approachable as possible. Either create a scenario where he has no choice, or make your overall appearance seem more open to strangers.

Be creative with the scenario thing. bump into him "on accident" and give a flirty smile. Maybe a compliment, which would momentarily boost his ego, making him more likely to talk to you if he wouldn't normally have the confidence.

As for looking more open.... Dos: smile when people walk up to you, open up your body language, etc... Donts: no bitch face, don't stay huddled in your group of friends.

These things will help you, but you should take into consideration that everything i have just said will most likely attract a less confident guy than the ones that approach you regardless of what your doing. However... It is possible that the confident guys really just don't give a shit whether your there or not, and would prefer to do less work for you. Really something to think about before you change up your game.

I practice reading body language and the boldest PUA approaches at a line of stalls. All sales staff are women. The cutest of the lot sells less than the uglies to her left and right.

What happens is like this. Men from afar (even the good looking ones and alpha types) hesitate for several minutes before approaching. When men approach, they suddenly turn left or right to buy stuff from the uglies next to the cutest woman. The cutest woman is friendly, always smiling, and fond of kino.

I can often see her frustration when the sale that could have been goes to the uglies near her.

Point is: You might need to uglify yourself a bit if you're getting impatient in hooking the most alpha of them fishes.
Ultra alphas are rare. And they are not likely to chase when so many women are chasing them.

You either have to lower your standards and bait a lesser alpha into chasing or you chase the ultra alpha with the boldest approach.

Now, in case you're wondering about my pick up approach with women... what I do is make them horny and then eject. If they don't chase, I move on to the next girl.

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You know what you need... a wing! A guy wing at that, he can initiate conversations with 'hot guys' about sport or whatever then get them to meet you. Easy! Plus it's great for him to have a 8.5 as a wing too.

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You guys were really helpful! I super appreciate it ^_^
Although it is sad to hear "there's nothing you can do about it" a bunch of times. It's probably true, I just hate to know it's true! Blegh.

Also, it's SO HARD to find a guy wing that's not selfish. He either:
1. Has a gf and is too preoccupied to help me or
2. He starts to help, then gets distracted picking up women

#1 piece of advice:

If you think you like a guy, make eye contact and smile at him. If he doesn't approach you after this then he's either taken, or he doesn't have the balls to talk to you which probably means that he's not the confident type that you're looking for. (sorry if someone else already posted this, didn't read all of the comments)

^This. Smile eye contact, look away. You can also try fluttering your eyes. Beyond that and you look desperate.

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Agree with the eye contact.
We call it 'eye f*cking'.
Eye f*ck the guy you want in the bar until he notices.
Then let him open you and chase you.

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With a wing:
I think having a guy to wing you is defiantly the best approach. You do need to be less selfish about it yourself though and work with him and have fun. If there are two of you aim to go to a bar and draw in all other HB and guys in the room because you two should be the centre of attention you should be able to have your pick.

By yourself:
Approach this like Gambler does in some of his vids. If you want the hottest girl in the club you have to get all the ones below her chasing you first. Get a few hot guys that are not the one you want to flirt with you be playful knock them bad a little etc. obviously where your target can see you and then make eye contact and smile and if he is ALPHA is should approach because he will want to complete with the other guys.

That’s my take anyhow.

Raven

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