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Have a sort've friend that lives far away... only communication with her is via txt.
Gonna be passing through where she lives soon. Want to get her to the point where I could hook up with her the night I'm there. But right now we're just friends and shes kind of a shy chick. I know she's freak out if I just went right into it with her.
So anyone know some tried and true methods using txt to get her wet and wanting it? Without her even realizing what I'm doing. This has gotta be really gradual and almost subconscious with her.
I know it can be done... no matter what, she's still a woman that likes sex (she's confided this to me in a friends-sorta-way) and even though we're friends I don't think I'm completely friend-zoned.
Unless you have sexual text game already going, don't get your hopes up. You probably will crash and burn.
Girls only want the D from who they want it from. If you're not on her sex radar yet you'll get
FMR (Or what I call First minute Resistance). This happens when you don't have enough built up Attraction with a girl, and while you're not
technically friend zoned, you're 'just that guy she talks to' and it's awkward for an escalation to go any farther.
Here's what I think you should do. And no, you can't do all of it over text if you really want to sleep with her.
After doing what the above poster said, nonchalantly asking her if she wants to hang out over text, You should start building attraction immediately. To do this, once it's clear that you are and the date set freeze her out until the day of the hang out.
At that point you have to start making up for lost time while you two are hanging out. You have to use push and pull techniques to quickly build up attraction. Don't worry about commonalities and comfort building, just worry about having a good fun time and showing how awesome you are.
Once she's convinced herself that you're the kind of guy she wants to be with after hanging out with you, then and only then will she want to have sex with you (LMR and Buyers Remorse very high though)