I was seeing this girl for around 6 months and she wanted to get it into relationship (long story short: she tried to do that couple of times b4 but I didn't agree, however she kept meeting me even though she said it's over).

This time I just went with a flow and agreed to get into relationship cuz I thought all her crazy behavior like asking why I didn't called her or saying that I don't like her will end.

It did. However....one day when we met everything was going great and both of us were happy and in great mood until we missed a fucking bus (because I couldn;t be bothered to run to it).

After that she got all upset I asked her what's wrong so she told me everything how she feels...

"You are a fucking pussy I feel like with another girl when being with you. I don't trust you and I feel insecure with you and it's not about your looks it's your mentality".

I didn't even say her what I think about what she said....i was like nothing (MAYBE IM A PUSSY LOL). Later on she texted me that I shouldn't take it wrong way and that she likes me and I make her happy.

The scariest thing is that I REACTED TO IT (by not reacting at all) rather than just having a laugh or saying something. So maybe I do project such a vibe!? I can't remember when I doubted myself like this...she fucked up my mind!

She probably thinks you lack initiative. You have no resolve. You don't take action. Obviously the bus things just topped it off , underneath that there's an entire nest of your lack of action.


Are you passive or active ? If I came up to you and punched you in the face , would you go ape shit on my ass or would you still try to keep the situation from escalating ?

You can answer me however you like , but you won't be able to lie to yourself. Really in-vision it. You'll have your answer.

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What do you exactly mean by taking action and lacking initiative?

And what does it have to do with keep fighting or running away? If I see that you are fucking ripped like an ape and twice as big as me then obviously I would just run away because there would be no point trying to do something physically.

I would have been furious if my girlfriend called me a pussy (in earnest). If she then texted me 'I shouldn't take it the wrong way' instead of 'My apologies, I was out of line', she would not be my girlfriend any longer.

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The pussy thing is just silly and her being a bitch.

My main concern is that she said she doesn't feel secure with me and she doesn't trust me. There can't be any relationship if there isn't any trust.

Anyway it looks like I am having too much mental masturbation about this silly thing anyway

It's not about fighting or running. It's about taking action vs not. Fighting is taking action. Running is taking action. Freezing up and staying there , doing nothing , and taking it in your ass, is inaction.

A person who lacks initiative is the guy who never has any propositions in his social group. He just goes for the ride - any ride - and never has any ideas of his own. He's passive. He's never the one to suggest a venue , an activity or anything like that.

This behavior projects itself in the relationship. He never has any ideas about what to do , he's shy of new situations , he lacks excitement or willingness to try new things.


I know guys like that and I understand why they're perceived as pussies by girls. That's what I'm trying to get you to think about. Would you rather see yourself a leader , or a follower ?

If you're a follower , ofcourse she wont feel secure around you. Why would she ?



You're seriously gonna dump your girlfriend because she didn't apologize for getting you all butthurt ?That's really all it takes ?

First off , she might be right. You probably did / do act like a pussy. Maybe , maybe not. But say you do. You're gonna brake up with her because she called you out on it ?
Point is you can't just brake up with someone just because "PUA teaches me to not take shit". Sometimes , the shit you take might be legit.

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I see now what you mean. When I am with her I always lead. We do what I wanna do and go where I want to go (unless she suggests something that I like). And in the past year I took MASSIVE action...going abroad, getting a job, pimping at least 3 days a week etc.

So I would say that I am an ACTION taker and it shouldn't be the case.

In that case it was probably nothing. Women have a certain way of not making sense.


Think nothing of it.

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Firstly, we're talking about a situation in which she is completely serious and rational. Not when she's joking, drunk, on her period, her dad just died, or whatever. Secondly, I think there is a major difference between 'You're acting like a pussy' and 'You are a fucking pussy'. While the first may be true on some occasions, the second is completely unnecessary and very disrespectful. A girlfriend is supposed to look up to you, not down. (As I think, by the way, a guy should look up to his girlfriend). And finally, I perhaps did not state this explicitly, but I would let her know I was offended. If her reaction would be to try and pin it on me (how could it be taken in any other way than a sign of severe disrespect?) instead of apologizing for the insult, I would end it. I do not think that is an extreme reaction. I've made the mistake of sticking with someone who did not respect me enough to earnestly apologize, it is not an experience I wish to repeat. A woman who doesn't make you feel happy is a waste of time to be monogamous with.

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Ha...completely forgot about this Actually she was

Man......

A girl calls me a pussy.


I look at her and say....

You are right, I am what I eat.

You already said you didn't agree to a relationship with her for the longest time for like 6 months and she had to pressure you to commit. You should have walked and said bye; but nooo, you buckled and agreed. First of all, that's really a pussy act in itself because women ask men to commit right around the 10 dates mark or the well know 90days probation period. If you don't dig this girl, walk away but I guess you just have to stick around with her because you've got no other prospects. So you just confirmed to her that you're a pussy. She's no dummy cause she figured this out already. Why do you think she called you a puss?!?

Secondly, if you don't dig the girl, then you just can't lead. Relationships require somewhat of a personality compatibility at the least and similar ideologies so that when you want to hang out at some place, she'll likely follow you. If personalities don't mix cause you really don't dig her, what happens usually that you'll end up spending more time with her on her own terms, thus opening up yourself being called a pussy. Because you really have no clue how to lead cause you don't dig her!

If you don't like a girl, don't mislead her or you'll get what you deserve!

are you NATURAL or tactic routine based ? maybe thats the problem ? too much mind fuck and manipulation for her ?

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Phahahahaha!!!! Good one...

Actually one of the reasons why I didn't commit was because I was seeing other girl at that moment. I suggested open relationship but she didn't agree. She said several times that it's over and I agreed but she kept calling me back and shit.

And I do dig her and even got emotionally attached to her over the time so that's the main reason why I agreed to get into relationship.

From the very beginning when I met her I was genuine cuz I was seeing other chick so I had 0 fuck if she stays or not.

Funny how everything can change.....

Actually one of the reasons why I didn't commit was because I was seeing other girl at that moment. I suggested open relationship but she didn't agree. She said several times that it's over and I agreed but she kept calling me back and shit.

And I do dig her and even got emotionally attached to her over the time so that's the main reason why I agreed to get into relationship.
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Never suggest any kind of relationship to any girl. That's rule #1. Let her suggest to you the relationship she wants first and then you can suggest whatever you like. If she disagrees with a FWB or keeping the way it is, then just walk away and date other girls. She will call if she likes you. That's the idea of NC, because she knows she's got competition. You let the girl chase you! Unfortunately though, you caved in which means you are chasing her.

This way, you always LEAD in the relationship. You are always in an OPEN relationship when no one suggests sealing the deal. You don't need to tell a girl you want an open relationship, because that's simply rude and arrogant. I'm not surprised that she's angry and pissed. When women are angry, they get back at you by revenge. And that's what you got.