Good evening puas of the world and thanks for readind the post !





My question is simple, when you know a HB not very well (i mean from weaks, in the case this a girl that works same place than me) we went out at night and she gives some IDIs ....but she got this guy from the same workplace hitting hard on her, and i always see them together at work.... is it reasonable to ask her directly..

"hey are you two together ? "


Doesnt it lowers my value ?


Opinions are very welcomed

I would never recommend a workplace romance, it causes problems, but if you're absolutely sure you want to pursue it, read this first: http://uk.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith/getiton10.html

If you're still not deterred, try to gauge the woman's interest, make eye contact with her and don't look away until she does. Arrange social time with the woman outside of work, hit up some bars with your buddies and invite her out. This will give her the perfect opportunity to say "is it ok if I bring *colleague*" then you will know. But if you ask her the question "do you have a boyfriend" or "are you with him ?" you will destroy any possible attraction she may have had for you.

Thanks for the comment !





I guess what im trying to say here, being specific, is when i go out and meet some HB which i feel in some way that's not alone, or some guy hitting in here i just feel like asking her "are you two together ?"



I would like opinions if you think that is ok ...... ?



In the same nature, i would like to ask if when you meet a HB you like and after some time, i mean during confort or attraction stages it is ok to ask her "Are you single ? "

(For this one I feel i would like to ask this right away, to save time and energy, but i also know i dont wanna lower my vaue showing neediness) What do you guys think ?




Opinions are very welcomed

You want a one word answer? No. Do not ask that question.
By asking a woman if she is single you demonstrating that you are worried she has a boyfriend. Secure attractive men don't worry, they do as they please and take what they want in life, they never ask. Women are always looking to upgrade even if they have a boyfriend.

Hey and thanks for the comments, i understand the point of not showing neediness or interest....




See the thing is where i live (which is the UK) some of them are really playful to the point they can flirt with them, kino escalate and always come that update atitude even if their boyfriend is in the same venue.....




At the same time i undestand your point, but not wanting to be a jerk, also dont want invest time, energy in a HB which in the end when tension releases a bit and we share a kiss, comes up saying ...oh im sorry that guy is my husband.....boyfriend...whatever.... (has happened before...)



Any suggestions for this tricky one ?

I'm from England too mate. I didnt say don't show interest, just dont show neediness.

Would you not sleep with a girl who has a boyfriend? Run the Strawman Technique on the girl about his boyfriend and give her your number. This probably won't work if her boyfriend is at the same venue.