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Today, my girlfriend was telling me about one of her friends that had a fight with his girlfriend because he refused her offer for sex. Jokingly, I said "Sounds like you ", and she said "lol, sounds like you, not me" and became weirdly distant. This made me realise that she has this mindset that I want sex more than her... it never used to be like this, but I guess this mindset has slowly developed, and it's obviously a bad thing. How should I have reacted immediately (I just stopped replying and so did she, was this the right thing to do?), and how should I play this from now, in order to get her wanting it more than me again?
From experience I tell you ,pay no attention to that. She didn't develop that mindset , she was indoctrinated with it since birth , when everyone around her - parents , media and everything in between - taught her that men want only 1 thing from her - sex.
And to some extent that is true. If a woman has nothing more going for herself other than her looks (no brain - virtually provides no mental challenge) than yes , that is all a man will ever want from her.
Regardless , think nothing of it. It's just a defensive response. You touched a nerved that has been overly sensitized by todays' society.
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and how should I play this from now, in order to get her wanting it more than me again?
One of the most valuable sayings of the PU community is "Pay no attention to a womans' words , but to her actions."
I experimented with this truth with my last girlfriend. Talk to her about sex and she'd get all whined up "I'm not your sex toy". (words , women and their words).
Initiate (take action) non-verbally and 10 minutes later she's begging me to spank her ass.
Point is , she might say she won't follow (social anti-slut defense mechanism) , but she will. Because she wants it. As much as or even more than you.
Have no fear , you're doing fine.