So I have a girlfriend whom I picked up.
The problem is that, as the title suggests, I feel like she has me by the balls. She probably does, but I don't want to let her know that.

So what happened today is that she didn't answer my text for 2 hours or so.
She gets pretty whiny and complains about how bored she was if I don't answer for more than 20 minutes, even if I told her that I would have trouble replying to her texts because I was busy at the time.

So I guess that I made the mistake of telling her that she had me worried for not answering, or at least not even telling me that she wouldn't be able to reply to my texts. And she called me cute for worrying

I will search the forums for more info, but does anybody have any for this exact situation?

How much time have how 2 been together ?
If you've been together for 1 week and you say you're worried about her not answering,that's weird-ish. If you've been together 1 year , it's not THAT big of a deal , unless you make a habit of it.Or if she lives in a ghetto ,or whatever. PUA teaches some solid stuff , but if you think that showing her you care about her every now and then will ruin your relationship , you're on your way to becoming an emotionally unavailable poor bastard.

What can I say ? Learn to calibrate. It's crucial to have that ability.

Anyway , stuff like this shouldn't be a problem. You don't text her for 20 mins and she gets all whinny ? so what ? Only thing that can go wrong with that is if you become over-apologetic. Again , calibrate.

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RC is right on learning to calibrate. I would say that it's also more important to know the norm versus abnormal.

Some couples are together long term and not texting back within 20 minutes is no big deal. If she USUALLY hits you back immediately, then it's out of the norm for her to deviate from that, and it's "sweet" if you are genuinely concerned. However, if this is a norm for her, then there really isn't any cause for concern.

From what little you've told, sounds to me like she may be insecure. And because of that, she needs you to dote on her and such. So, in a nutshell, she expects you to text back immediately, and she expects or wants you to worry all about her when she doesn't do the same. Not only that, she wants you to TELL her you're worried, it's not enough for you to sit on message boards and wonder and worry, she wants you to show her you're worried about it. The problem is, doing so gives her what she wants, likely gives you what you don't want, and that is justification for her to continue this behavior. If you like dealing with it, then do it. If you don't, then I'd tell her you really care blah blah blah, but that you can't be sitting around worrying all the time if she doesn't text back right away. I don't like games in a relationship. The game gets the girl, then the relationship needs to evolve into a grown up ordeal, otherwise I am out.

Right. Having just gone through something similar I can tell you what NOT to do.

Do not reply until she replies to you. Bombarding her with text messages makes you needy and lowers her attraction for you. It's okay to feel worried/anxious etc.. but don't show it to her, try and find things to keep yourself busy during the times shes not replying.

When she does reply, don't respond right away, leave it 30 minutes to an hour, depending on how long she took to respond. Chances are she might just be busy.

Haha thank you, gentlemen.
Calibrating? I wonder why I've never come across that topic yet. I guess that I'll search it up
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