The subject pretty much describes the main issue. I didn't know this the first time we were together and after she told me we agreed to not see each other anymore. We did. And she's starting to show much more affection, so I'm asking more for a moral advice here. I don't really mind having sex with her but I would definitely not like to ruin a marriage. Also her husband lives in a different country but seems to be visiting from time to time.

At the end of the day it's your call.

I'd be careful to keep emotion/affection out of it though, never return that kind of stuff because you really will be getting into a risky area if you do

What he said and I'm a big believer in karma so I wouldn't get in this kind of situation

I complete sympathize with the idea that you don't want to ruin a marriage. But I also think a relationship in which one person cheats is at least severely damaged, if not completely ruined. Cheating is essentially lying about who you love and how much. You cannot force anyone to be truthful, but you can choose not to lie yourself. As long as you are extremely clear to the woman your relationship with her is purely physical, she is completely free to make a decision for herself to: 1) continue lying to her husband, 2) end her marriage, or 3) try repairing it. Obviously, I would not recommend getting emotionally involved with someone who chooses option one.

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This is a subject I know a little bit about. It is the truth that if she is cheating, the relationship has problems. However, you are her little escape to paradise. She is showing more affection because you can do no wrong. You're not in a relationship with her, you're the place she goes to get away from a fucked up marriage, kids, life, whatever else.

Here's the plain truth. You're not doing her, yourself, or her husband any favors by fucking her. She's dealing with the problems in her marriage, her life, or in her head in a fucked up way, and you are assisting. I know this, because I've been there and done that. End it, for your own good, and hers. If she continues to fuck someone else, let him be the guy who gets shot when her husband finds out.

Trust me when I say this. I cheated on my last wife. I slept with married women. Net, net, stupid fucking thing to do. Nobody wins. My advise, get out and tell her the real reasons why you are. You'll be glad you did. If you don't, you'll definitely be saying at some point, wish I'd have taken the good advice when it was given.

Thanks for the responses. Can you suggest any non-painful way to smoothly end this? The problem is also that the circumstances are such that I see her at least twice a week. That is in fact how we know each other.

Explain to her why you are ending it stick to you decision no matter what as I'm sure shes going to try to convince you to keep on with your current relationship, I'd prob go no contact with her except the quick hi when you HAVE to see her the two times during the week

Yes, it is not a good idea to be sleeping with a woman even though sex is great, but you did it anyways so there's no turning back because you are already set in motion the karmic debt you have to repay. You had the free will then to say "NO". First of all, make sure you use protection at all times because she isn't sleeping only with you and make sure you go to a STI clinic for a checkup! The reason for this is that, these women want to simulate exactly the feelings they get from their main men, so unprotected sex is not all that uncommon when they are on BC. Problem is, she firmly believe all the other men are clean. She needs to be sleeping with all kinds of men because what she is doing is that she is filling the void of the man she married with while being away with several men that have some of the characteristics she missed. In a way, she's a cheater and you also become a cheater by approving this act.

In terms of Karma, it is already happening. Karma is about untangling the entanglement, which means lets say in your past life, you were a woman and that you cheated like this woman does for your own selfish benefit, but because you are not a man you don't feel the hurt. This is a selfish act and that she does not understand the hurt and the pain that will cause those other men including yourself who thought they had a chance with her once she divorced her man. This will never be the case. One thing is that, she DOES NOT love you, but uses sex to justify love because of the oxytocin effect. She is using you for her gains. So now in this lifetime, you are now a man sleeping with a married woman. As soon as you are dumped by her, which you will be sooner or later, you will feel the emotional hurt that you put into this woman. It is a way of paying back karma debt. Doing to others what others will do to you. So yes, you will go through this hurt, but understand that this is a lesson you need to learn because of your past life. Whether you believe it or not it's up to you, but in my case, I've been through all these type of women I believe that it was my karmic debt I had to repay and the pain and the emotional hurt I got from all these women I went out with was what I deserved.

Quit, tell her you're quitting because you can't be part of breaking up a marriage, you don't want that on your conscience for the rest of your life. Even if it isn't true, it's a good excuse to give.

From there, my advice is to fill the void she filled with someone else as soon as possible. It will help you stick with this. In a nutshell, get your cock in someone else, sooner the better.