| If you ask me, I see two problems:
1. Unclear about what constitutes being nice.
2. Signs of neediness.
1. Nice and needy are not the same thing, nor does one imply the other. (I wonder if they even correlate in the grand scheme of things.) The keywords in being nice are sharing and giving, e.g. sharing a story, sharing an experience, giving a compliment, giving a gift. Being nice is not necessary to get a girl, but it can be helpful. Moreover, the world would be a lot nicer place if everyone was just a little bit nicer. So being nice is good. Neediness, on the other hand, is not good, neediness is bad. Neediness is not a behavior, like being nice, but a motivation of behavior, like being nice because you need someone to like you. Being needy is unmanly, unattractive, and unenjoyable (I just invented that word, but you know what I mean). Needy people are supplicants, they are begging for kindness and love. And you know what they say about beggars: they can't be choosers (nor do I think hobo's bag lot of women, but what do I know).
2. You show some signs of neediness. You said you liked her (sharing your feelings, thus good), because you wanted to stop her from being angry (supplicating, thus bad). The reason to tell a girl you like her is because you want to tell her you like her, not because she is angry with you. One a side note, if someone is angry with you for a legitimate reason, apologize. Most times though, women are angry with men for reasons that are entirely unreasonable. If you think the latter is the case, don't apologize. In fact, point out that the woman in question is being unreasonable. If she continues to be unreasonable, ignore her (known as the soft next), or even move on to the next woman (known as the hard next). If you react to anger in any other way, her anger becomes a way of controlling your actions: you become an unattractive and unhappy supplicant. Anyway, there's no need to regret it, what's done is done, and the lesson is learned I hope. Actually, there are many men who do not realize their mistakes until they are dumped by a girl (like me), or they don't even realize them at all. So in a way, you're ahead of the curb. _________________ One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.
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