| Alright... so here it is... I broke out of my "comfort zone" and went out solo. It's a bit long, but overall, I am happy with my progress for a first solo sarge experience.
First venue was a bust... like nothing over a HB 6 other than the bar tender. Wasted a $5 cover for some crappy 80's cover band, plus a beer and bailed.
Moved on to a place that I knew would have a better dynamic and sure enough it was packed. First floor is mainly a bar, got a drink a drink and went to head upstairs... more of a dance area, much louder, etc... They wouldn't let anyone up b.c it was too crowded, and I crafted my "loner" story from that. Once I got upstairs, completely packed... at least 3-1 dude to HB ratio, but most of them were 7+.
Got "stuck in traffic"... really couldn't move anywhere and happened to be a HB 7.5 drunk as sh1t. Figured this would be a great way to start. I practically opened her almost by mistake! Approached from the side, as she turned around, SHE knocked a beer off the table, spilled on me... she thought I did it, and acted pissed that I spilled her drink (not even sure it was hers). I played it off pretty well and she said I had to dance with her since I spilled it. Not sure I followed that logic, but ok. Decent grinding, chatted while dancing, blah, blah blah. Ran my story on how I stuck stuck downstairs, had no idea where my group was so I said I was adopter hers. Went to grab a round of drinks at the bar, she asked me what I was drinking. She ended up ordering some shots and pulled out cash to pay... ok at this point, I was thinking... what is the catch, there is no way this is that easy. Took the shots and I moved in for the k-close. No idea how, but it really was that easy.
Now, this where I probably should have isolated her, but we continued to hang out with the group she was there with. I chatted up the guys and a couple of the other girls, seemed to have a good social standing going. Danced and made out some more with the HB and she switched to water... ok, she was a little trashed at this point, not gonna lie. Her friends ended up "taking her home" and basically stepped in so I didn't take advantage of her. Ok, moving on...
Approached a set with 4 HBs 7-9's and one guy. Got one them, HB 8+ who was visiting from out of town talking and started dancing. Had her laughing the whole time... I was a good bit tipsy and she was giving me sh1t cause I wasn't in rhythm with her. I set my drink down and said ok, her's something I know I'm better at even after several drinks and made out with her. She told me with a huge smile that I wasn't a bad kisser. I negged saying, "glad one of us is not bad". Without hesitation, she started making out with me again. I pulled back first used some of the lines I've learned liked, "woah there, I'm not just some piece of meat." Started dancing closer and kept my lips right by hers and said, "I bet you give in first". (She did).
Final call comes up, and the group is heading out to two of the girls' place close by... they invite me back. We get to their place, they are all talking about starting some drinking games and still a very flirty SPAM. One of the other girls, HB 7, starts flirting with me and I do notice the HB 8 looking on. I eventually re-engage her, kiss a few times and from there it runs downhill. Instead of drinking more, people start sobering up (including me). The girls order some pizza and the rest of the group ends up going into one of the bedrooms leaving just me and HB 8 in the Den. We're just talking about random stuff and make a move to escalate further Kino while making out. Now, she is still smiling and starts asking where I live and where I was staying. Here I'm thinking I'm set... wrong. Now I realize she was proabably feeling out my intentions. She goes into the room where everyone else went and all of a sudden I'm sitting out there alone. Her friend that lives there, HB 9, comes out an takes me by the hand and says lets go for a walk.
I know at this point, it's one of two thing... either the HB 9 is the one actually into me (awesome) or I'm getting blown out (more likely). We walk the hall of the complex, she starts asking me where I'm from... so I ask "Where I'm from, like grew up?" And I tell her... she says she has family from around there and now my BS meeting is off the charts. I say, "oh yeah, what part?" Awkward moment. She then starts giving me some BS about how she doesn't know me and doesn't want some guy she doesn't know staying at her place for the night, and BS, BS, BS. I graciously say, "I think you've got the wrong idea of me, but hey, it's all good." and bow out. Oh yeah, this is the same chick that invited me back in the first place. Yep, HB 8 had her friend get rid of me.
Anyway, I did already kinda know this, I don't feel I did terrible in person, decent looking guy and can speak well... my kryptonite before had been text game so this takes that out of the equation. The night helped my Approach Anxiety a good bit, but I think I'd still be a lot more comfortable with a wing. Now I just need to be able to transition that initial attraction further.
Final score.... n-close: 0, k-close: 2, f-close: I think I had a shot (or least to have some fun) and f-ed it up. The dude in the group even told me at one point that he thought I was in.
I think I know where I mis-stepped on both sets, but any feedback so I can improve is greatly appreciated.
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