Hi, I gonna be brief on what is going around my head.

Almost 3 months ago I was approached by a girl in the Tube, she came to me looking for help and as I am a very good citizen I helped her and I also got her number after a long chat in the tube. We even got lost and we found each other again... one those strange things that happen in cities so bigs like London... What are the chances of loosing someone in the tube and met her again the same day 20 min later?

Anyhow, we go in touch after I asked her for her number, we went out for dinner, she played me a bit and that was all for that day. After that we kept texting each other... for a month or so until last weekend she came to my place and I believe we both knew what to expect from that encounter. However things got a bit awkward before we went to bed. She start telling me the story of her life... in that precise moment I just decided to leave aside the fact that I wanted to have sex and I started listening to her very carefully.

She had some problems back in her country... with family, ex-boybriend, friends.... all the classic things ppl leave their countries go abroad and make a new life...
At that point I listened to her very carefully as I mentioned befored, when she started crying I got even more suprise and I started thinking that what she really needed was someone to listen her someone to be her friend.

The surprise came when she started talking and she jumped over me and we started....

A questions that has been going around my head in the las couple of days...

Did she really need an emotional connection to go beyond and have sex with me?
Did she want to create some intimacy sharing her secrets with me to have sex later?

or the most important one,

Was she trying to just get rid off the culpability for getting in bed with almost a complete stranger?

Guys, I hope you can give me your opinion on this. I know women are emotional creatures and we as men want to find out the logic in everything however these questions will help me go beyond and understand some things about me that have been a constant in the past.

Sometimes finding a complete stranger that can make you feel important (even by something so little as listening to you) can make a major difference. It's basic human nature.

She probably didn't have a 'hidden agenda'. Like you said , she started talking and you started listening. She just went with the moment as you managed to make her feel secure enough to open up.


Don't overthink things.If a woman tries to get rid of culpability or try to establish an emotional connection she won't do it by revealing herself , rather by trying to make you reveal yourself.

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Thanks R.C, something new I learnt today. True indeed, they will make you reveal yourself.