What is a good opener that makes you come off as you dont care, or arent really interested, causing her to think to herself " what so special/ different about this guy? most guys usually try to hit on me, whys he so different"

A neg type opener i guess

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First of all, don't care. Second of all, I want her to know I'm interested. I don't try and hit on her - I fucking well DO hit on her and take pride/own the fact I am. I want her to know I am talking to her because I am interested in sharing her company in a dating/sexual context.

Fuck negging. And no neg openers 'cause most of the time you come across as just a bit of an insulting twat.

fair enough, but sometimes there are those HB9's and HB10+ who obviously get hit on the regular every single day of the week, so your just another guy like the 90 before that have tried. I want something that would make her wonder whats so different about me. Doesnt necessarily have to be a neg, i just figure most women like that arent used too being negged or talked to like that.

Im also not trying to say I want to come across as a complete and total asshole

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do what directmike said and if the girl acts bitchy like youre just another chump say something like "ooh well you're no fun" but make sure you're looking at her when you say it and with a confident smile/smirk.

first of all it depends where do you open her... if you are talking about the miss popular inside of a club yeah she has been already approached by 90 drunk guys that nice saying how beautiful her eyes are while staring at her tits and trying to put their crotch between her legs... I mean if you want to be special here, yeah maybe showing no interest will do the trick if she just does not forget about you once the new person in the bar comes to give her attention. I'm sure you are unique in many things, just show her your uniqueness if she doesn't like it thank her for saving you a lot of time, energy and pain later on.

Anyway that same girl everywhere else at any other time in the day is rarely approach, so in this case you'll be special by doing so, specially if you show and express all your interest.

There are few times when you would neg an HB. One is if she did something you don't like, i.e thinking she's hotter than you or way out of your league. This would be accompanied by playful teasing but not necessarily more negs (unless she really thinks shes a bombshell) as DHVing yourself is waaaay more important than DLVing her.

Another is when you already have rapport with her and you want to break it. I.e you're chatting with the set, laughing having a good time and then you neg her, breaking the rapport between you two so as to build attraction by DHVing yourself. A neg is only one way to break rapport however and there are a variety of techniques.

Negs can be dangerous, and if used at the wrong times can of course make you look like an insulting asshole.

You see it's not about not caring, because you do care. You can't hide the fact that you want to talk to her and why should you? Ladies love a man that knows what he wants after all. The trick is not to be Invested in her. It should be obvious that you could talk to any girl in the club and the girls you're talking to right now are lucky to be having fun with you. This said, they have to try and keep your attention because you could walk away at any moment, finding girls that are hotter/more interesting.

If you find yourself getting lost in the crowd far too often, Peacock harder and get back out there.

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As world runner said,
IMHO, body language will do the trick. Don't show interest by avoiding making eye contact initially, assume she isn't present, walk straight as if you're gonna reach a target, head front & straight, both hands waving normally. It's good if you are both walking in opposite direction & you DON'T make eye contact at all INITIALLY for 2-3 times, not more than that.
After you have done this for 2-3 times, either SHE will be TEMPTED to approach you, or, next time, you should throw your opener with a STRONG eye contact. STRONG here means maintaining eye contact 3 seconds more than hers.

I had that experience, a HB8 used to come at gym. Initially, I didn't made eye contact at all, not just with this one, but with all the girls in gym. And then on 4th day, she approached me with "Are you working on this?" with a plain questioning face. I was doing shoulder pull, I kept quiet for 2 secs & then nodded my head once, made eye contact to express that 'yes, I'm using it'. Hell, she knew that I'm working out, but that was her approach. After completing, I told her, "Now, you can...(pause)...use that" to which she replied "Thanks". Considering that as an IOI, I later asked her to have breakfast together with a STRONG eye contact to which she said yes. Job done, I # closed her.
See how it works & where it is going. Most conversation is non-verbal. Little clues, eye contact, (pause), micro-expressions, etc...which make you SEEM unique.

The initial eye contact avoidance is what will make you come off as you dont care, or arent really interested, causing her to think to herself " what so special/ different about this guy? most guys usually try to hit on me, whys he so different"



It worked for me, hope it'll work for you too!