Hi guys

I've been with my gf for 10 months now. I've been quiet successful with women in the past and have no problem usually getting laid and I'm a confident guy.
Me and my girl went through some hard times early one (lost my grandmom and there was a pregnancy as well were we decided to have an abortion). As the relationship continued I failed every shit test, my self-confidence shrunk and I became really jealous.
It's so far now that she blocked me of her SPAM because we had problems regardings her statuses she use to put up. She always tries to make me jealous and tells me shit about her, she nows she got me eating out her palm almost.
I wonder how can I make things turn around now, after the reason she fell for me was my confidence, my appears and popularity ( I met her at a annual 3 day conference, which will be happening in a few weeks again)

Thanks for your advice.
From a natural who turned into a AFC

The word "NO" is very powerful Bro, use it!

Stand up to her, BE a MAN!

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A natural Alpha male must take FULL responsibility for the aftermath of his mess, which includes infecting her with S.T.I or STD or causing her to become pregnant and the eventual abortion.

I hope you guys had a full 5 STI tests which should cover the 3-5 months sexual window before you guys had unprotected sex or anyone of you had sex previously. I mean, it wouldn't be nice to give someone STI (like HIV or even Herpes) especially to a girl! If the girl got infected per se, I couldn't blame her for giving you shit or a barage of shit tests. But then you got her pregnant.

You should know better that having unprotected sex carried some risks including pregnancy. You should be on the ball on her period and her religious B/C program as well. Not sure about this, go with her together and see a doctor so you both understand the seriousness of the consequences and the signs. Typically when a girl is on BC, you only switch using a condom during the iffy times like she's on antibiotics or meds and she will never get pregnant. Plus you know for sure she wants unprotected sex just for the feeling of intimacy and not "trap you" into being a father of her child!

Abortion is usually never a "we" thing. It's usually a "you" thing, the man who's responsible for inseminating his semen that made her pregnant. Women in general want to keep their babies, which is why single moms out number single dads. The only exception is that, she had set out not getting pregnant and birth control malfunctioned, condom broke during iffy times or she missed the pills. Then it is "her" thing to get the abortion. It's rare that it's a "we" thing. Me and my girl got the lecture from the doctor, so statistically, it's either you or her who decided to abort unless the "we" decision is an outlier. Since she's giving you so much shit tests, that tells me that you had convinced her to abort. It's a "you" thing. She is punishing you. Decide if you want to stay with her or expect the barrage of tests to continue until you submit to her highness for your mistakes.

Good luck!

Well, seems like she has you by the balls. To turn things around, your first step is to stand up for yourself and say NO, as one poster above mentioned. Your second step is anticipating her retort and her punishments she would administer for you saying no. Is she gonna not talk to you for a day? Is she gonna threaten to dump you? Be prepared for war. Third step: not caring. This may be challenging if you love her. But you need to be prepared to lose her. This means sniffing around for other girls for a potential rebound.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

This is what changed your relationship. Doesnt matter what anyone else says here, this is what changed it. A miscarriage or abortion, does alot to a womans body, and mental state. There is always crazy shit test sent the guys way after this event happens in a relationship. And if you fail one of them, it is like failing a normal shit test times ten. I would bet that if you read a book on how to deal with a womans emotionals after a miscarriage or abortion, you will see that you failed most of her test and didnt even know that you were.

You have to understand this completely fucks up her mental state even if she says she is fine, she is not. There is no steps to regain control in this kinda relationship, until her mental state returns to normal.

The abortion came more from her side since I dont really believe in abortion but we only being seeing each other for a couple months. I thought as the man I'm gonna support and her and be there for her. That's when I became soft and try to convince her I'm a good guy despite my reputation and I would be able to care for a child. At that time I wanted it and thought it's wrong to kill a child and try to overqualify myself back than.
Since than I've been kinda needy and seems like she things I would never leave her.
I haven't called the for the past 2 days and not looking to do so, I think like you guys said I need to go cold and stand up.

thx