So I've been with this girl for 8 months now, we've had the exclusive talk, "I love you" etc.

Anyways, from the beginning she claims to have guy friends and I was cool with that even despite the fact that she she has hooked up with all of them except 2. Anyways, sometimes randomly she'll get a text from a guy and claim, "why is this guy texting me I haven't talked to him forever". I've only met one of them.

Also, she is kind of shady with her phone. It's always face down but she does leave it alone with me. I refuse to snoop, and would have trouble anyways because there is a pin (she's had it from the beginning).

What am I supposed to do about this? Let it go? Or should I confront her about this cell phone business? It's really making me feel insecure.

The girl i have been seeing for bout 9months has alot of guys friends, some ex's or guys who have wanted to get with her. She gets messages from other guys from time to time. She usually tells me some guy texts her, but im sure she doesnt always tell me. It doesnt really bother me. I know I dont have anything to worry bout cause i have her always chasing me. I have not chased her one time in the relationship.

You will have to decide if what she is doing is shady enough to warrant caution.

She is sh*t testing you to try and flush out your emotional insecurities. They are VERY GOOD at this. Their test are meant to illicit an emotional response from you. As you can see, you reacted and posting on this forum, the ball is in her court now. She has power over you. You must internalized the game and treat women not as mysterious beings, but beings with a plan to see if you're an Alpha male or a Beta male following a game plan. Especially after you guys seal the deal, the game get more intense.

8 months is long enough in the relationship that you shouldn't sit around and deal with shit internally. Ask yourself point blank, do you have enough evidence that you could accuse her of something and convict her, or do you have a few things here and there that your insecurity and imagination allows you to fill in the blanks and create a picture of your fear?

If the answer is the former, then get to work dealing with your own issues. If the answer is the latter, then learn how to bring it out in the open in a good way. And if the latter and you bring it out, do so prepared to know that your relationship may be over.

My guess is that really all that is going on is that your mind is playing games with you, whether it's by her design or just your own fault, and you just need to focus on not allowing it to do that. Part of the inner game and maturity struggle. When I get insecure about this, I just think to myself the following: If she cheated on me, I wouldn't want to be with her, so at that point I've lost nothing that I want anyways. So, there isn't much of a point wasting my life worrying about it.

If you don't trust her leave her. To be honest, the cell phone upside down and locked is a cheater thing, combined with the guy friends who she's slept with and the explaining when a guy texts her as being out of the blue. Shit test or not, there is something about a person being too "messy." In my opinion, if a girl has to many complicated actions and behaviors, I see her as too messy, it's just too much to think about and not my idea of a relationship. She may not be cheating, but if she lives a lifestyle that would make anyone have a hard time trusting her, then she's not worth the headache.

I think that's the right way to have a girl friend.Its really good thing dude that you are listening your girlfriend not any other person.So i say that a girl get text from many person like some of them are her class mates,some are ex and many other but we think she cheat on us.Its our fault that we take it in negative sense.That create many problem for us.

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OP, I'm not saying you should be paranoid. But, it's a trend that guys in relationships who study PUA try to look past signs of cheating or dishonesty because she's "shit testing" or if she acts like she's hiding something and you think about it you're being "insecure."
Eg. "She's shady with her phone and my gut tells me something is up, but I'll disregard my instincts because I'll just be insecure if I think about it or if I bring it up I'll lose value"

Your gf is shady with her phone. This means she doesn't want you to see who is texting her. She is hiding this from you. She's getting calls and messages from people that if you knew you would get mad. It's that simple. You've been together for 8 months so you should let her know you don't like that things are hidden. If she is acting like you said, she IS being shady so you can call her out on it and put an end to it.

See I'm not threatened by a girlfriend having guy friends. The way my girlfriend acted makes me uneasy. One of my issues is, she has slept with pretty much all of these supposed "friends".

For instance, about a month ago, she told me she met the guy she dated before me (dated him for around the same amount of time) for lunch and he tried to kiss her. She said she turned her head and explained to him she was dating me, then she said she still hung out with him after in her place. Then she told me she met up with him for lunch again a couple weeks ago and told her that were boyfriend/girlfriend. She claims to have not slept with this guy since last July. She hasn't mentioned this guy since.

A friend of mine tours with a world-famous band. He asked one of the lead performers about relationship advice, and this is what he had to say...

"If it's not perfect in the first year, get out."

Take that for what you will, but this band has performed almost as long as The Beach Boys. He's been with a LOT of women. When you're in the bubble of a relationship, you'll call that advice bullshit. But if you step outside yourself a second, it's something to think about.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Yea shes defintely cheating on you, look at it from someone elses view man she took him back to her place after he tried to hook up with her??? NEXT

Maybe, you should confront her and ask her about that cellphone business of hers. Talk to her and tell her what you feel. It is up to her if she will listen to you or not. At least she was aware with your issues.

She could just like the attention from other guys? Maybe she's just a flirt? I say, check her phone. Discreetly figure out the pin and check it. If the text or the length of calls from these random dudes don't indicate anything in regards to going behind your back then stick to it and see how it goes. If it was turned around, she will check your phone. They all do. Does she take your love with a grain of salt? If not, then she's playing you in some way.

I went out with this girl for 2 weeks. and she was a 9. Big booty, great boobies lol and great body. But almost EVERY TIME we would go out, I see dudes just checking her out and SHE WOULD SMILE BACK AT THEM! or this one time, we went to eat and the server just straight up eye-fcuked her. He just looked at her the whole time when he was taking my order. What a slut. I'm pretty sure she gets text from guys too but that didn't worry me as much as the other dude who are actually close (proximity wise) to her. Anyways, I found out she was very easy so I hit it and quit it. I asked a mutual friend of ours how she's doing, and apparently she's gone through so many dudes already.

This is questionable depending on the situation. If they bumped into each other and decide to eat and catch up, fine. But this was planned it could be bullshit.
To be expected, but not something to upset about unless this was a repeated over and over by this same dude.
Now this, this is complete bullshit. She fucked this dude at her place, a girl is not going to invite an ex back to her place after he has tried to kiss her and she turn him down, unless she wanted something else from him. She invited him back to her place cause she didnt want to be seen in public kissing him while being in a relationship with you. Also, sometimes the best place to hide something is right out in the open. She did this by telling bout the dude trying to kiss her and then him coming back to her place. That way you feel somewhat like she is not lieing to you about anything because she is telling you everything that happened(while omitting some of it). Plus by telling you this it helps her relieve some of the guilt to make it alright in her mind what she did.

Just want to share my St. Patrick Day Party with my girl. We went downtown to a club, Me, my girl, her best friend(also roommate), 4 other girls friends of hers, and one of there BF's. My girl is a social butterfly, knows everyone and talks to everyone. I know there were a few guys at the party she has went out with from time to time, and possible had been with. None of that bothers me cause I know she is with me now and all of that is before me. When we get to partys, she has a small group she likes to have as a main but also walks about around talks everyone else. Every guy friend she has came to me and shook my hand and introduced theirselves. She knows, I like to talk and flirt with passing women and she is alright with this as long as that is all that it is, and I never take it past that. I invited my friend to come hang out with me and flirt around since he is single. I had several glow in the dark wrist bands, and a big bow tie on. Through out the night I was putting glow sticks on girls as they pasted, had a few play with my bow tie, and my girls friends bought me food and a few drinks. I didnt pay for anything. The party ended, my girl and her best friend were pretty lit, took them home and lay them in the same bed, my girl in the middle and we all slept til late sunday.

One thing I forgot to mention. This happened when we weren't official yet (hadn't had the talk) but we were seeing each other 3 times per week/talking everyday for the last like 7 months before.

Do I still have the right to be mad about it?