Hey guys, so my girlfriend of 9 months recently (in the past week) has really showed a loss of attraction by making it obvious she doesnt want to have sex. Normally up until now we have had sex multiple times a day everytime we see eachother. Recently we started getting closer on a personal level and ive been opening up and weve been enjoying our time together and doing A LOT. The relationship itself seems to be maturing and getting stronger, I am just confused about the attraction doing the opposite. Definitely could use the advice

I'm not sure on this one. I've kind of experienced the same thing. But it sounds like the opening up and being more personal stuff might be the issue. While all of that stuff is a must in a good relationship, maybe there is too much if that and not enough mystery or playfulness like there was before you started opening up alot. Maybe mix it up a little. Flirt with her like you did before you got to know eachother so well to bring in some of that old excitement again. Act like you're out using some game on her. Spice it up. I know in my relationships, after a while the flirting went away and some of that spark went with it. However, it's pretty normal for relationships to calm down and become more relaxed after a while ya know.

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yeah im definitely gonna try acting like I used to and try and refresh things, ill try "gaming" her again and see what happens for a while. Thanks for the advice.

Thanks man these are a huge help. Ive read all this stuff in the past but sometimes we dont realize we are making these mistakes. This girl means a lot to me and I definitely dont want to start slipping. She has a really strong personality and ive also noticed shes starting to take "lead" of plans and decisions. I need to turn this around now

I am not a fan of gaming in a relationship. If you've been together that long, and the relationship is maturing, gaming is out of the question for me. Unless you simply want her not for a significant other in the normal sense, but more for someone you work on your game with.

My advice, if your relationship is mature, do exactly what was proposed and mix it up, not really game, but add some fun and spice to it. Create a spark. And when she asks what gives, tell her you just felt like the relationship was a little stale and needed a kick. Tell her you love all the opening up and deep shit, but that a guy has to have some fun too. I'm willing to bet all my marbles if your woman is a good one, you'll be a lot happier with that outcome than you will by gaming and playing the stupid shit test, soft next bullshit with her.

That's my 2 cents.