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Basically my GF ( of 3 months) knows I've slept with quite a few women and has from time to time got a little pissed off about it and called me out on it, now I rightly or wrongly I told the truth and explained to her how I just couldn't find the right relationship and a decent girl. She obviously is teasing most of the time and I joke back and laugh about it myself.
So today I talk about moving areas and she txts saying something along the lines of "you ran out of girls to sleep with so your moving on to fresh ground (wink)", I joke back saying "yeah they weren't my type around here" and she replies "Im sure you can find some sexy girls in your new area". It's all joking but I can't work out if the undertones are she's jealous/insecure or that she's happy for me to sniff around and push me away. In a way it pisses me off as she still thinks i'll stray, though I've reassured her before. I understand as she was cheated on previously BUT its annoying feeling like its a big joke and I can't work out if she's serious or not.
What kind of responses should I be using if this shit comes up in conversation or text again?
thanks.
First off, who's in control? You are, obviously. Secondly, she won't leave you because of her insecurities. Thirdly, no matter what you say, she'll never be reassured.
So, solution: don't bother trying to reassure her -- that shit won't work. The only real reassurance you can give her is a relationship that lasts longer than your previous longest, or something similar. If her stupid jokes annoy you, you can continue humouring her in return. If you're just bringing up this question because they actually don't annoy you, and you want to reassure her, just ignore her jokes and change topics as Timo suggested.