Just met a woman a couple days in a city 4 hours away while visiting. After a couple hours of great rapport I kiss-closed her but then had to leave town before we were able to meet up again. I assumed it was over and done, but then she just texted me today.

I'm wondering if it's even worth me trying to keep her hooked and then building the attraction via texts, calls, and emails to try to get her to visit. If so, what frequency? Too often would seem disproportionate to the amount of time we've spent together, too infrequent might break the connection.

She mentioned that sometimes she passes through my general area on the way to another city, but no idea the next time that will happen. Obviously, I can go back to her town, but I want to make her come to me.

Is this far fetched? We had a pretty great connection, I think, but we just kissed. Any ideas for how to reel her in?

And if I do visit her again, how long is too long? 1 month? 2? 3?

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a good thing i use with girls to control frequency is i just tell them to text be soon, right before saying goodbye, generally grounded with something.

a few examples:

hey so i need to go
but text be later and tell me how (X) went ok?

or

hey gotta go,
hit me up sometime if you want to hang out

this last one im using on a girl that im currently texting with, i saw her one time but i hooked up with two friends of her so it was really hard to gain her trust and it looks like we're going out this weekend. the great thing is this is an IOI test too. the conversation with my girl whent something like this:

her: bla bla so i have to go to bed early, tomorrow i have work in the morning and school in the afternoon!
byee!

me: ok text me if you wanna see me this weekend

her: ok, the weekend is pretty far away though its only tusday

me: hahaha
ok, you can text me just to mess arround too

her: hahahaha
ok, i will
(kissing face)

(this is all translated, in spanish it sound better im from argentina)


anyhow, i think the text me later and tell me how (x) went applies best for you, but keep in mind, you can always tell her to text you when she's in town too

hope it helps, i know it helps me!!

Owen

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I think that makes a lot of sense. Thanks Owen, will give it a try.

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So I followed up with cocky/funny texts every day or two for about a week (one for one), then let it die for a few days, then let her know I'm coming down to her town again in a couple possible ranges of dates (1-2 weeks out) to visit friends and told her I might have an evening to spare to catch some music with her. She texted back the next day that she's up for it.

While anything can happen between now and then, it seems as if I was able to maintain the attraction over a period of a couple weeks with only texting, at least enough that she's agreed to see me again.

However, now I think this situation is more challenging than one in which I'd either not kissed her at all or already had sex with her. If we hadn't done anything, there would be no expectations and she could tell herself we're just going to hang out. If we had had sex, she'd already taken the plunge so it wouldn't be that big of a deal to do it again. But since we only kissed--a prelude to sex but could also not mean a hell of a lot--she knows I'm going to be coming back for more and now she's got to have a bunch of things going on in her head about what she should do.

Anyway, this should be interesting and a good lesson to me as to how best to pull off this kind of situation in the future.

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dude awesome congrats!

don't over think the kiss thing too much. think of it this way: you already have attraction, so now move on to comfort and seduction.

i would say you should kiss her as soon as you see her but idk how intense your texting was so maybe it can come off uncalibrated, only you know.

i would suggest that you do a little of attraction though still, to remember her why she's attracted to you, at the beginning of the date. if you haven't already, this is an awesome time to do the cube on her.

after that just fun comfort game until you feel she's ready to go for it.

comfort game means showing her she can let her guard down with you.
telling your life story, or sharing your goals, is golden. something deep about yourself, that you can speak about with conviction and confidence.

also, if you've seen spread, there's a good part about "how to put them at ease". here's the link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfY3gM3sGnI

you judge for your self, i think it seems too condescending in the clip but it's still a good idea if you do it right.

be sure to listen a lot obviously.

good luck bro!

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I'll consider all of this, thanks.

But isn't kissing her right away a bit presumptuous?

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nah dude! it depends i've done it and it has gotten me laid, but i knew it was ok to do it. you get the feeling, if it feels wierd when you play it on your mind dont do it cuz it'll be messy

its good because it establishes the sexual frame.

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