Ok so I have just recently re-connected with an ex girlfriend of mine after we realize we were taking the same class. I am 21 and she is 23 and we dated for awhile, back when we were teens ( im talking like 13, 14, 15 years old type thing lol ). Now although we have never really lost contact and have been friends over the years its been awhile since we've been around each other and such.

What I am wondering is how I should go about gaming this girl. She is very beautiful with a great personality. She has always had an outgoing personality that comes off as flirty which makes it hard to tell the message she is sending. We have a history and are comfortable with each other but ever since I was 14 (dont act like thats too young) I have always regretted not banging her lol.

Anyways, we have class twice a week together and she sometimes gives me rides as well. Is it as simple as asking her out for lunch/ coffee or to study together or is there something else I can try? something I could say? Some way I could act?

Keep in mind, I dont want to start a relationship, I just really want to bang her..who knows maybe it could lead too a good fwb

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First off, it would help to know who broke up and why, what the initial reactions were to the breakup and how/if you spent time together afterwards, also what your relationship was like then and now.

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Just a normal teenager break up i suppose? it was quite sometime ago, and we have both grown up since. If we ever talk about it its always in a positive way. We have both dated plenty of people since

It was one of those corny teenage relationships where we thought we were each others first loves and all that jazz. Like i said we haven't kept in much touch over the years but haven't exactly been out of touch, you can tell we are both aware of our history.

Another thing is we have talked about taking our dogs to the dog park( we both have new pups). Is this a bad idea that could get/keep me in the friend zone? I mentioned how she comes off very flirty and has a lot of guy friends so I have no clue what to think.

But honestly, this girl is still just as amazing..

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Anyone can be confident with a full head of hair. But a confident bald man - there's your diamond in the rough.
- Larry David

we also have began texting here and there since this class has started

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Anyone can be confident with a full head of hair. But a confident bald man - there's your diamond in the rough.
- Larry David

Of course she is still amazing, you guys had a strong emotional connection and that sort of thing stays with you. (And of course it has stayed with her too )

First off, to answer your question: Dog walking together is not something you should fear or question, quite the opposite actually. It is a great opportunity to both keep exposing her to you, which naturally creates attraction (if the interactions are positive) and to game her, so keep doing that.

Also don't suddenly change how you act around her, it seems like she likes your company for now and if you suddenly stop being congruent she is going to know that something is up.

When I started re-gaming my ex-girlfriend. We were in a much worse place than you are in now and I was successful in not only starting to sleep with her again, but we actually got back together, so it can be done.

The first thing I did, was to realize that I wanted her, but that I couldn't chase her, I had to make her chase me. (I did some stuff that I am going to skip since you are further along in your interaction) We met for coffee and then started to hang out again (this should be what you guys are doing right now)

The first thing I did was to analyze why she broke up with me, and then show her through my actions that I had evolved and grown. Obviously we still had a strong emotional connection and by eliminating the little idiosyncrasies that she didn't originally like, I was re-amping the original attraction she had for me back when we first met. The next thing I did was to tease her a little when we were together, and lead her a lot. I was teasing in order to establish NEW attraction which would build on to the old one, and leading her based on a AFC-Adams lecture where he talks about which types of men different women was attracted to, she was an extrovert and they were supposedly responsive to leaders.

The key points I held in mind were:
Playful Kino which escalated slowly (meaning over the course of several meetings)
Strong Eye Contact
Smiling and Positivity
Fun and Attractive interactions

The last one was in one instance: We went shopping and I picked outfits for her, the I would lead her into a changing room and be in there when she changed (compliance)

Now, this was in the early stages of my game, and I did my very best not to over complicate with using too many routines, I was basically just pumping old attraction and building new on top, then testing her states, because we already had plenty of comfort and rapport.

I hope this helps, obviously it won't all apply to your situation, but it's a good start.

Good luck mate

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No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens. ~Abraham Lincoln

Because i can.

In general, the rule of thumb for getting an ex back is to improve every facet of your life and amaze her with all the changes (without boasting).

But since you two dated a long time ago, when you were barely teens, that's a bit different. You guys are more friends than anything. You've dated plenty of girls since her and that's always DHV in her eyes. She's also flirty. She could be telling herself she also regrets not sucking your penis. To me, this looks like an easy catch. Game her like you would any other girl. Don't wait too long before escalating as this may put you in the friendzone.

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wow, really appreciated the responses guys!

DirtyOS, you mention how you couldn't chase her and that you wanted her to "chase you", can you elaborate on that?? What kind of things did you do?

All in what ways did you tease her? sometimes Im worried of taking too far

And when its comes to us texting here and there should I keep em short and simple? you never know when someone is getting annoyed of your texts

Sorry for all these dumb lil questions, i might be over thinking everything but this girls go my head going crazy...again...fuck.

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Yeah sure.
One way of doing it, was that I would break rapport. I don't know if you're familiar with the concept, but you probably know the point in the conversation where everything is free flowing, and talking is just easy. You're both laughing and having a good time and you feel like hours can fly by in seconds. Always break the conversation at a peak. Don't break it verbally, don't start talking about random stuff that she isn't going to relate to, but if you're chatting in the hallway before class just say "Well I have to get to class nice talking to you" or if you're out shopping find some clothing and say "Hey try this on real quick" Now you're breaking rapport, but you're not "losing" it. It's still there, still a tool in your belt you're just not using it.

Girls really enjoy these conversations and she will start to chase the rapport you two have, if you're leaving in the hallway she will text you either during class or later, if you were shopping she will start the conversation back up as soon as possible probably by showing you the item you picked out for her (If you choose something a bit revealing she might pull you into the changing room after she changed) now if you always break rapport when it's high, she will start chasing the rapport and you more and more.

There's a couple of other ways of getting her to chase you but this is by far the easiest and it's very powerful.

A lot of people have trouble being calibrated when teasing, a good advice would be that you can disqualify your line if you think you went too far.
If I tease her because she is a bit bossy and I observe that she didn't like it, I can top it off with something like "aww, no frowny faces, I still love you"
You just disqualify the tease by validating her a little bit, remember teasing doesn't always have to be sexual.

And don't worry about the friend-zone, if you assert yourself as a sexual person and gradually sexually escalate (no matter how slowly or slightly) you wont end up there.

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No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens. ~Abraham Lincoln

Because i can.

You've been great help man, honestly. If I come across anymore questions or something I am curious about I hope it wouldnt be to much of a bother if I came to you too ask?? you seem to know what im getting at and have good knowledge in this stuff, stuff which I'd really enjoy learning. If you dont want to be annoyed thats completely understandble but with a couple posts you have cleared up alot for me, Thank you!

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Anyone can be confident with a full head of hair. But a confident bald man - there's your diamond in the rough.
- Larry David

Naah man, that's perfectly fine. You can just PM me. We're all here to both give advice and get advice, we help each other, because we all have sticking points, or run into situations we're unfamiliar with.

the only dumb question is the one you don't ask

Good luck out there.

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No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens. ~Abraham Lincoln

Because i can.