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So, i'm finishing high school, and at my college, are hundreads of HBs (most of them HB7s or 9s).
Here's the problem: I'm walking, pretty confidently (i know body language does not lie, and therefore i can't just fake it, so i take a deep breath, and walk as relaxed as possible, i also avoid looking down.)
When an HB is coming, i just say a loud "Hi" and smile. I get no response, HBs just pretend i don't exist.
On the other hand, less attractive girls respond, some give a fake smile, others say "hi" and then turn their eyes away.
Or in some rare cases, they look at me with disguise and give a fake smile, i'm not bad looking, just shy (extreme fear of rejection).
I'm trying the Newbies' mission. Minimum to no success. (most of the time i catch myself giving off weak beta signals, like looking at the ground, retracted posture...)
What could i do to revert this?
I'm a newbie in this PUA lifestyle, i just got sick of being rejected.
Cheers!
You sound like you've only scratched the basics of body language - get Joe Navarro's - What Every Body is Saying, read read read. Being relaxed is not being confident, being relaxed is submissive, to alpha you have to walk confidently, you have to own the space you are in, not just be comfortable. Try writing down a few self affirmations and repeating them to yourself in your head at random times during the day (every time you hear a phone ring etc). Body Language is an expression of how you feel, if you feel relaxed and not confident you will not be confident, you will be relaxed until you hit your sticking point and then become stressed. Try not to fight the stress you feel during the approach or rejection, embrace it and eventually the stress you feel in those situations will dwindle to hardly anything.
If you think i'm just spouting off some random crap, i'm not, this is the exact same situation I had with Approach Anxiety, push through it and you'll find the thing you were scared off/stressed about isn't as bad as you thought, I actually enjoy approaching now, the pressue isn't on me, it's on them to entertain me, if they are boring I move on and find another set which I find more interesting, not just any girl that will do.
Hope this helps,
Jake