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So, since day 1 I've initiated everything. Took her first romantic, emotional kiss, her first relationship, her virginity. She's been at my home. A lot of stuff has been been pretty darn good. We've been together for about three months.
Now, what pisses me off is that I do everything according to book; I show no neediness, play her, tease her, sometimes i unfortunately ignore her (bad day, tired or pissed because I hate her lack of initiative or her overly happy mood when I'm pissed) and try to be sexual whenever appropriate.
However, now I feel I lose my game (not so much seduction due to lack of time together) and I never ask her out on everything after school anymore cuz I want her to take initative. But she doesn't! She doesn't know where she has me. I think she finds me very unpredictable and scary to approach from time to time - I can both feel and see It. The closest thing she comes to initiating are conversations. But she hardly ever acts like herself among friends/in public, but neither do I. Haha. This is complicated shit.
When we're together alone everything is usually perfect, romantic and coozy, but always because I initiate. She doesn't even dare to initate body contact when we're alone, but when I do, she's super into it!
So - what to do now, guys? Should I go back to iniating dates? How should I approach her in public to get the sexual excitement flowing again? What, in general, should I do?
Because you are too available and too complex for her and she knows it. When you play a game with her, don't play a linear game. You play games based on the dynamics of the relationship. Most people play games after they got tips from the net and book and simply hit the play button. Sure she's finding you freaky, because you're so predictable following a seduction script inappropriate for her situation! She's got a really good antenna for sensing. You should have played the game BASED on your gut feeling and alter the game to suit your situation, not follow a script. I'm not surprised she finds you strange. I would if I date a PUA robot!
You're bored because you have "nothing" going for yourself and this is not uplifting to a woman. Women find men interesting of what they are doing and will "ALWAYS project" their future with you based on what you do. You clearly know then you got her.
But all you got going now is with her. See, you have no challenge and challenge is "KEY" to attraction. A man is supposed to lead in the relationship, but women is supposed to reciprocate with affection (kissing, hugging and sex) if she truly is attracted to you. No challenge = bored means low interest level. Keep in mind that she has zero relationship experience so this is her learning experience, and she does not know how to react to a boring guy yet. But then you're going to teach her how like most AFC guys act with the PUA script that did. Main reason why lots of dated women know this sh*t, no thanks to those AFCs. Tame her well. Where are you taking this into; marriage or a committed non-marriage relationship? Lead her to your intended final relationship commitment and don't play her or flip flop her.
Game always continue in relationships. Don't stop it as it is a natural way how a man reacts, because it is a integral part of what a man does. Men who do not play games because of what Hollywood and society in general are feeding garbage to you and had become soft.
Most men can get women just fine, but only a few men can keep their women for long periods.
HOWEVER, there maybe another reason. She wants a submissive boyfriend, easy to control and have power of using affection (kisses and sex). She controls these gates. That's not a healthy relationship.
CHAT
