Hello, I'm posting in this forum because it's my style, natural. anything else just screws my brain up, I must be 100% authentic. As far as natural also I am marriage minded. I only just got back on the seduction sites from years absence. I know what my aim is, one quality woman, and I find one I like and pursue her totally in a total war- I have decided- until it fails completely no hope. This American in St. Peterburg Russia, we were talking. I thought she liked me, turns out more like a brother. This is what brought me back to these sites. I underestimate FEELINGS in certain women. I know feelings matter but nobody else has complained whose been with me in relationship. I didn't show her my badboy side, so she probably thought I didn't have it, much like you might give up on women who don't have sex in first couple days- even if they'd make very sexual girlfriends.

So this rival which I didn't know about- he was giving her feelings I guess. He is also from another country, but visiting in 3 weeks, so I am visiting in 2. I applied for a visa, took time off work. Don't tell me I'm being too desperate or something. I am direct, I am confident. I don't care, I do what I gotta do, at least I see Russia but I want to do what I didn't do before, sweep her off her fucking two little feeties and also destroy the feelings for the rival. That is the hard part. In general I don't agree with destroying boyfriends, but rivals like this I feel innocent. It's early, both of us have only known her for since the beginning of this month. I sent her an email and she was surprised and impressed by it, didn't see that side of me before. I sent her more but she hasn't looked. I am afraid and reasonably certain she's giving her time to him and getting more infatuated every day. There's not much I can do now, so what I want is a plan for when I go to St Petersburg and how to sweep her off her feet, have a great kiss that really gives her feelings and get over any kind of resistance that might pop up. I basically want to destroy all resistance. I want to utterly destroy it. I am an authoritative personality- I don't want to sleep around but I want to be king with one wife I choose. I probably won't be meeting her at a time when she's had frustrations with a guy she's known a while but she's in the early phase of developing attachment, getting butterflies. I want to destroy it and replace it with butterflies to me. I want to transfer her submission and loyalty to me, through whatever means, including a great slow kiss, cocky funny, smooth words, touching, massage, leading, boundaries, etc, but I am just trying to plan for every situation, including if she hardly wants to hang out with me, brushes me off, always refers to him, etc. I have to destroy all this resistance and attachment and loyalty to him in a way that works too, not just by logical argument.

I don't know his date of arrival but I booked it so I can get maybe a week or 10 days before, but I can stay longer because I can take time off work and can be there when he arrives, so that if we are connected, we can tell him together that she has chosen me.

You see, I put all my eggs in one basket, as principle now, because it's how I'm true to myself. If it fails I move on but I intend for it to succeed and I will put a lot of thought into this and I come to you for insight, resources, links, suggestions






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Man you're talking about how confident you are but you are saying totally the opposite. You seem desperate, not sure, afraid that she's not into you and your ego is getting in your way. You also want to go all the way to Russia for this one girl that's not that into you and that's crazy. Sorry to be this harsh but that's what I see.

Work on building yourself with other interactions. Become a stronger man and take the time to find yourself. Realize that if you actually naturally the alpha male, she will want you. But you have to be able to back it up in your real life. Don't promise something you can't deliver.