Hi, I'm new to these forums and hope this post belongs here

The situation Im in really makes me feel like I hit rock bottom here, Im been seeing this girl for no more than 3 weeks, we have slept together more than once; shes a hard 9.9.5, and a total bad girl, anyways one night after I had a long weekend and wasn't in the right mood, I went to the bar, and was talking to the 9-9.5, she made it clear she wasn't coming home with me that night because she was with her friend from out of town. After she left, I met some other girl I know at the bar and slept with her that night. I also downgraded to a 5,(which I think may be bugging me the most). anyways when I came back to the bar, the 9 had returned and had heard about what just happened. We played it cool and talked, she chirped me for downgrading and pretty much told me she glad she saw this side of me sooner than later. (we didnt have a label and the communication was terrible since ive know her). Thing is I really liked this girl. but it seems egos def collided.

After a situation like this is there any possible chance for reconciliation?

fuck yeah. Just don't pussy out. Tell her your a sexual guy and that you like to fuck. Don't apologies for it. Tell her if she plays her cards right she might even get to enjoy you. Remember your the prize.

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well Yah thats normally what I would do, but I think i was emotionally compromised because i dig this broad, I may have blown it, when I told Her I felt bad for being a dick last evening and apologized, than told her if she wants to reconcile and take things slow throw me a line.

I gotta feeling that killed it

i dont see anything wrong its not like you were bf and gf you dont own her and she doesnt own you whats the problem

Thats what Ive been thinking too, either she lost interest level, or she feels embarrassed, I thought hooking up with another girl would be desirable

no its not desirable youre enough as it is putting more value ontop of already being enough is overwhelming
and it does diminish the mental association of you being her bf unless you reframe it and don't make a big deal out of it and call her out on weird behavior. weird behavior is caused by insecurity and lack of emotional strength on her part and if you buckle in that frame she will believe shes right

so naturally I should do nothing

do nothing if you don't want her around anymore, you need to get back to her apologizing for hurting her feelings man(empathy) explain you knew this particular girl from before and you didn't know shed get her feelings hurt and its wasnt your intention....you feel bad for hurting her feelings....

this is her victim mentality frame here and youre both in it and you need to please her ego to be able to work with her but don't expect an egoist to let go of ego at a drop of an appology

let me put it this way:

you're a high value man in her eyes

you didnt handle the problem the right way(it was a big deal to you, you didn't call her out, you didn't reframe)
you gave in to her frame and she now legitimately thinks you cheated on her

high value man has made a mistake and now needs to appologize to the people below him for the mistake, you need to make her feel good now by appologizing and validating her victim mentality. dont supplicate just appologize, mean it, but don't supplicate don't give your power away, you still have the power, in fact you are appologizing is an act of reaching down to the low value people

I would say yes and no on this. Sorry for being so cryptic. You should only apologies if you warrant it. And its on your own terms time and place. Do not let her back you in a corner or ride you. Do you genuinely feel sorry? Or are you sorry cuz that's what she wants. Do not bend to her whims. I would state after you set a proper mood that this is the way it is now. You are a different person and that you have grown and changed for the better since you were last with her. I have multiple girls and they all know about each other. Its just what I do and if you want to be with me you need to accept that. I also let them know that if they want to spend time with me they need to make the effort and that cream rises to the top.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

Well I had already apologized before posting this, I basically said sorry for being a jerk last evening, and she replied with a "I appreciated seeing this side sooner, rather than later, bye", so I don't know, this girl always has guys kissing her ass, and is high value. so this could go both ways i suppose

yes you should've definitely said this in your original apology op but don't apologize more than once or else you supplicate and lose power cause it makes you look like you can't get over it, so don't apologize again. don't compare yourself to other people too.

now give it a bit of time then contact her, if shes mean to you, call her out on mean behavior. if she acts distant its okay but if shes being rude you need to address that.

so after a week in a bit i decided to make contact, i invited her to my friends house for drinks, she accepted at first than declined because her friend wasn't interested. so I told her to stop by my house later in the night, she responded with "that's trouble", whereas, I responded jokingly stop being a pussy, she than went on to saying she doesnt want a bad rep, and she feels like a slut and doesnt want that feeling....now normally if a girl i had been sleeping with was saying these things, she'd be hinting she doesn't just want to have sex with no strings attached, in which case i would move on, because i normally wouldn't want a relationship, but since im interested in this girl, i dont really know how to react to what she has said. after she said i feel like a slut, i basically told her "i dont know who uve, been talking too, but i dont think your a slut.