Hey, long time reader and lurker working on my skills from the shadows and i've finally got the courage to register today and am looking for some advice on how to handle my girl.
Some background, we've been together for 2 months and we spend entire weekends together ever since we started dating. Her feelings for me are questionable and i know she doesn't love me yet and i've never implied i have her either, waiting for her to go down that route first... anyway. We just had a fantastic weekend and we've been planning a trip to florida together since my Uncle owns a condo down there and i offered we can use it to stay at to save any hotel fees, shes a student and just lost her job recently and i've had to pay for every dinner so far. Last night after getting home she looked up flights. the price and dates were lookin' good and then she implied that I would be paying for the entire flight for her (we're canadian, toronto->miami is around $500 per person) so to get clarity I asked her when she was paying for her part? and she didn't take it well and now the following day I received this email from her:
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HI;
Couple things I need to address with you;
1) When you came to Sudbury you told me you were taking me to Le Château to buy a pink dress to wear for Valentine's Day with you, when there you purchased clothes for yourself, and the dress you said you were going to buy for me, well... you didn't. I had even told my mom that you were doing this for me. (To clear things up; this isn't a part of a valentine's day gift that I received on vday... this was a prior thing you had told me you were doing... etc...)
2) When I told you my ex was a douche, bought us tickets and I stated he payed for them, and then he didn't want to spend his money on me... and returned them, and we didn't go on the trip, long story short you said my ex is a loser, and that you'll treat me right. I also said at one point that I can't go on a trip to the music festival because I'm not working, and you said it's all good I'll take care of it babe.
I'm not saying you should buy me things, and I'm clearing that up so you don't think that and then we have another misunderstanding... but you say things to me and then don't follow through with them.. my mom actually questioned me about the whole dress situation.
I have the text messages saved between us and you stating all the above statements that have now led into unfortunate and saddening misunderstandings. Therefore when you said to me last night "I don't know how you ever got that impression," that is how.
Once again, don't come to me and say,.. I'm acting spoiled, or that I expect these things from you, because I don't... however this is what you lead me to believe. I don't have a job, therefore I don't understand why you would think I can pay you back for a trip to Florida... that'd also be why my mom was going to buy me a flight from Toronto to Sudbury... If you look back - seriously Tom, you would have known that, that was the impression you have me..
??? I don't think I should be paying for her flight much less all our dinner dates. I never said i'd buy her the dress either. I said MAYBE Cupid will get it for you for vday... but i ended up getting her a MK watch instead that she loves. I never offered or implied paying for this trip, my only offer was the condo my uncle has, that was my offer never to pay for her.
How should I handle this? Is she just a gold-digger? I feel like shes just with me to buy her things because her ex didn't. I havn't bought her anything yet aside from the obligated vday gift and dinner dates.
thanks.