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Hi,
I would like to tell a experience with this woman is was dating, it failed and also I want it off my chest.
So we met online, via dating website, i approached her and we had some email contact for a few days, and agreed upon meeting on a sunday afternoon.
We met for a short drink and talked for about 2,5 houres, and had a good time, and agreed for a second appointment (her bringing this) the next sunday.
For the second date, i arranged a diner, which was also nice and went for a game of pool billiards afterwards, which she claimed was not familiar with but was happy to get some lessons from me!
This game was nice with a lot of physical contact (only initiated by me).
The night was closed with kissing quite passionate, and I suggested a third date, when we cooked a meal together at her place.
The third date was something i won't forget for a long time.
I went to her home, nicely groomed, and baked the desert (chocolate ofcours), and we had fun in the kitchen while prepping the meal (allthough she was a bit bossing around).
Maked out in the kitchen, had a mix a fun and serious topics.
After diner, we ended up on the sofa for some time, and eventually had sex, and i spend the night with her.
Had a nice breakfast, and suggested a walk on the beach because the weather was nice that day.
On the beach it felt very good holding hands while strolling along.
After that she suggested to get lazy on the sofa with a movie to end the sunday, we watched and cuddled.
In the days after that we texted once or twice a day (Me holding back..)
Until tuesday when i created some sexual tension in a text message, like i was imagening something.
She responded playfully, and it ended up in her bed again after (She initiated that my image should become reality).
We spend the night again, and woke up and had breakfast together.
The days after we had a steady text contact, only one or twice a day, a good balance in who initiated the contact.
Last friday she had diner with some female friends, and i decided to leave her alone and let her enjoy her time, she knew i would go the bed early but send me a KISS around midnight, i did not respond till the next morning.
On saturday i had a birthday party and i had to decline her suggestion upon meeting on saturday, so instead we met yesterday.
She went out partying on saturday so she told me that meeting up was ok, but she was a bit tired so we agreed on a lazy sunday, just hanging around, i cooked diner, and watched a movie.
From the start she was cold, stopped kissing, texting, not cuddle me or stroke like she did last sunday.
And eventually asked me to sit down, and told me there was something missing between us....and that she tried but failed..
I was stunned, but replied that I was glad she told me.
She told me she had the impression i did had feeling for her.
She hugged me, and i told her to stop, and that it was better to leave....
I left the house without looking back, and texted one message :
" It better this way, you are not the one for me "
" Thanks for the nice moments we have"..
I am heartbroken...........
She mentioned that she thought you had feelings for her, It seems like she wanted something casual, not long term, If you had your mind set on something longer term then maybe she wasn't right and this was the correct thing to do.
Learn from it and move on, don't be so overally needy next time (always initiating contact - physically and text game), theres a reason that dating sites like plentyoffish are called what they are; there are many people out there for you, not just one. Take the negative feelings you are having now and channel them towards finding someone new, don't let them consume you.
Hope this helps,
Jake
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