Hi guys - first ever post on the forum!

I've been following The Game now for a good year, learning openers, negs, push-pull, the lot! It took me until last week to finally put all of it together...

I moved down from Scotland to just outside London last summer so i thought i really had to pick up my game and get to know people in the area. A couple weeks ago i started talking to a couple girls (both nurses) who told me that they had a Scottish friend who worked with them that had also moved down. They gave me her number, we started texting and hit off big time. The whole both being Scottish in London was great conversation material. So anyway, we arranged to meet up last Saturday night.

When i met her i was stunned, she was easily a 9/10 and i would never dream of approaching her in a bar or whatever. But i didnt let it show that i was a bit awestruck and kept my cool. The night went really well, i had her laughing from start to finish, made sure she bought her share of drinks. I even won a round using the 5 question bet. She loved hearing about herself when i explained what it meant that she got question 4 wrong. I then also used a little modified version of the lying game which also went down well. She was touching my arm a lot which i took as a very good sign.

Unfortunately at the end of the night our taxi decided to stop at traffic lights to drop her off so it was all quite rushed and i panicked and never went in for a kiss. But we txt when we both got home for half hour and she seemed really keen to meet again.

I asked her on monday when i get to see her again, she didnt txt back. She text me this morning apologising but not answering my question so i asked her to join me on a walk and some lunch this afternoon as i knew she wasnt busy.

I then got a text explaining that she had a great time last week, thought i was a really nice guy but "she felt no connection as such" but wanted to remain friends.

To say i'm slightly deflated is an understatement. I felt really good about myself after saturday night, i thought i had finally nailed it! If i could attract her, i could attract anyone! But obviously not...

I really dont know what i could of done differently, maybe i should of neg'd her more, disagreed with her more? Or maybe its as simple as she just wasnt physically attracted to me? I wouldnt say i'm the best looking guy but i can scrub up well.

So basically i just want some views from other members on what i can do to avoid the friend zone time and again? Or just any comments on what happened.

Thanks!

Maybe not text with her all night?

When she started touching you that was the pivotal moment for generating sexual attraction. An experienced PUA without breaking a step would have gently taken her hand and removed it (without looking) and carried on chatting. Meanwhile the HB9's brain would have been thinking "WTF he's removing my hand and I'm an HB9! Who is this guy he must be used to top quality women" and then started to validate herself. The PUA would then push/pull till he got the kiss close then immediately disqualify her. The HB9's brain would now be saying "Double WTF!! He was interested I'm sure but now he's not after kissing, Whoa don't like this at all" Then she will want to take you home to repair her reality as an attractive woman. Lots of kino to get her excited, slight hint that you have to "go now" then manly duty time

Sometimes, it just isn't meant to be. And I would appreciate her honesty for not going with excuses and just being straight up honest with you. Work more on yourself, if you don't go to the gym, find time to go. Read about inner game. You can never have to much confidence/knowledge. Keep improving yourself and don't let it take you down.

Atleast you had a nice date and alot of fun, what I would do is to keep her as a friend, seeing you 2 have much in common, so send her something like "Yeah cool me to,(that you also want to stay friends), wouldn't want to lose my only scottish friend here hehe". Something like that , keep it playfull! And you never know what may happen, also she will be a great tool to DHV yourself with other women(make other women jealous you can hangout with this one)