I went out with a girl with bf, and things were pretty good between us. I got her to hold hands, and talk about almost anything, but she is undecided.
I went out with her a few times, until her boyfriend saw us.(she didn't want this to happen, but someone saw us and called him). When he camed there, he started arguing with her.
Now she doesn't want to go out with me anymore, and she wants to be with her bf.

Any solutions how to make her mine?
Please Help!

I don't think there is. She already made her mind to go back with him. Move on dude. If anyone has a better answer, they should give you one but I don't think that there is. Also, it would be a huge head ache to pursue her to get her and your game should be top notch.

I know that is a hard situation.
I just want to try to solve it, if she can't be mine it's not a big deal, I only improved my game, my confidence, it's much better than doing nothing.

Could you make her yours? Yes. Technically, anything is possible with enough skill and effort. That doesn't mean you should pursue this, though. You're much more likely to fail with her than you are to succeed, and the chances of you getting hurt in the end are high. The risks don't outweigh the rewards. Your time and effort would be better invested in someone else.

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Too late.... You fucked up by allowing something to force her to choose when she already had commitment elsewhere. You should have done one simple thing and that is influence her to choose before you got caught.

Don't say it isn't a big deal, obviously it is to you or you wouldn't have posted it on this site.

You needed more sexual tension, you had the connection and the attraction but you needed to make her want you sexually. What's done is done... Move on your skills aren't good YET (you'll get there) to turn this around if you are asking here.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Something's gone wrong between her and her bf for sure; otherwise she would have never went out on a date with you on a number of occasions. And the fact that she repeated the date means that you possess something which she found interesting, maybe even lacking in her boyfriend.

Following that her bf saw you together and started arguing with her. You said she wants to be with him. But that's not necessarily the case. There are many reasons why she might have said no to go out with you again.

As others said, it takes a lot of effort to get her. I have been in a similar situation where I liked a girl too much to let her go and my suggestions below are based on the personal experience of how I went about getting her.

Start with some damage control. You can text her and try to find out what's actually wrong in their relationship. Next, make the problem seem bigger than it is. Make her speak about her boyfriend and in the process she will also let you know what she dislikes about him and what qualities she wants him to have. Try to excuse her boyfriend for what she dislikes about him but subtly show her that you're in possession of the qualities he lacks. When you are trying to find excuses for your boyfriend, she will probably start disliking him even more even though at first it might seem otherwise. And it will also bring down her shield. You're the one who is actually trying to help her get back with him

In the meanwhile, every now and then mention that the last thing you'd want to do is have sex with her. It might sound counterproductive, but it will make sex the thing she'll want the most from you. Then it depends on what she says. For example, if the girl says that her boyfriend is ignoring her emotional needs, yet he supports her financially or she thinks she can rely on him, convince her that he is more of a big brother to her than a boyfriend even though they both think otherwise, etc... and work on that. Obviously every situation requires a different approach.

It will be difficult but if you really like her and you're sure it's not oneitis, it might be worth the effort in the end!

She only wants sex after she is married. I was hoping to turn this around somehow.

So you say that I should act "only as a friend" for a while.

I am sure that a clear solution does exist, that's why I posted here. I don't want to do some AFC mistakes.

And now I got a message from her bf saying that I should "mind my own bussiness, if I don't want any problems"...should I tell her or what should I do?

Her choice has already been made, mate. It was either her boyfriend or you, and she went with her boyfriend. What do you think telling her about this is going to accomplish? Do you think she's going to confront her boyfriend over some guy who is of no importance to their relationship?

It's time to let her go.

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MrGiggles

That's it? Never talk to her again.
A solution like this I could find on my own, too.

Hey, I know it's not what you want to hear, but that's the way it is. At least you know now that trying to pursue her is going to come at a large cost, and will probably end in failure and heartbreak. Part of being good with girls is knowing which girls are worth the effort. Also, knowing when to cut your losses.

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MrGiggles

I tried to make her gelous saying that I go out with another girl, and she was very mad, saying that I am a lier, because I told that I care about her and now I am moving on.

Personally I would freeze her out. If not your rewarding negative behavior. You never want to do that. give it some time then reinitate like nothing happened. It is amazing how she will forget about all that and just rember the good times you had after a while since she had so much going on. Once you get her out again just go to your place or out of the area where bf is to avoid the situation.

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i hope you are not looking for a LTR / serious relationship with this girl, given her breach of trust and lack of morals. What you need to do , is to somehow get her to spend time with you, gather info about her bf (subtly ofcourse ) , and position your traits/ virtues as superior to her bf.. I doubt you would need to put in much effort, as she seems easy...

i would think , based on her behavior , that it should not take much to convince her to go out with you and then ultimately bang her.. You can take the initiative and freind-zone her. she just might find that a good enough reason to come out with you .. you should probably suggest areas/places where her bf is least likely to be around.. This would be a perfect opp'ty to get her to your appt

Let us know how it goes