Do not judge a girl by her words. Girls say a lot of crazy stuff, especially when they are discussing men with their other female friends. Judge a women by how she acts and how she treats you. It doesn't sound like you are the one who's being aloof. My advice remains basically the same. If nothing else, perhaps you can attempt inviting her out to fun events every now and then so she can start associating you with more positive emotions. Give her some experiences she can brag to her friends about.

Are you going to see her on Valentine's Day? Do you have anything fun planned?

-Wolf

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"In order to change a relationship, you have to risk losing it"

I'm just saying he will probably cave in and give her mostly what she wants, because he wont want to risk losing the relationship. Furthermore, he's already well into the relationship, which makes things much harder. There's a great post by 60yearsofchallenge titled "Next Early or Pay later" :

(http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... hod=browse).

It basically says that if you wait too long to deal with bad behavior, then it may already be too late to really change it. At a certain point you give up too much power or she just loses too much attraction for your girl to be threatened by a "soft next".

Even so, there are ways to not participate in "fights," which can make the experience your friend is going through more pleasant. Basically, the tactic is to just cut contact when the girl starts to act irrational or too dramatic. Tell her a girl that if she can't communicate with you like an adult, then she can't communicate with you at all. Calm, rational discussions are great, but crazy-girl emotional attacks are not okay.

-Wolf

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Thanks man, I appreaciate the advice.
For Valentine's Day i bought her a great present, but for the fun part, i can't do anything that we didn't do fun already, becouse I live in a small town and not much to do here, and it's winter. We had loads of fun during the summer, and did all types of crazy things. But i'll think of something by tommorow. I'll threat her as you told me, and expect a reaction from her. Thanks again.

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im 21 shes 19
pretty sure shes a good girl.

I've only been seeing this girl for one month, I know that is a pretty short time but things escalated quickly and i was able to get into foreplay straight after the second date. I've been seeing her about 3times a week since then. now before i meet this girl I never even held hands with a girl before so im pretty inexperienced you could say, ha. what is confusing me about her is that she allowed me escalate things sexually very fast but when it comes to the lay it is just a complete no go and I am wondering if it is even possible.

some information about her: first off she is a virgin, I know its take a long time to bed a virgin but thats not just it though. she has told me that she is opposed to the idea of sex before marriage "110 percent". I asked her why she said, not for religious reasons but because she feels it is the last "pure" thing about her left. also she is afraid that sex wont mean anything afterwards and she will just give it up easily like her friends, which could be a legit fear since it is easy to escalate with this girl. she has had plenty of relationships before and even saw a guy for 1.5 year and got engaged to him, and she still didn't give him her virginity.

I like this girl, i do but if i have to marry her to get intimidate with her then it is a no go for me. I was wondering based off what I told you do think there is any chance i could get her to open up to the idea of intercourse. also i don't plan on just getting what i want then leaving, im not that type of guy.

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"The key is to diversify...Whatever works. It's like fishing with 7 lines in the water instead of just one. You're more likely to a catch fish that way."-PUAninja

Yes, but it will probably take awhile (which isn't necessarily a bad thing). When you guys are young and inexperienced, it's best to take things slowly. Get good at foreplay (fingering, oral sex, etc.). Learn how to give her orgasms consistently and she will be much more likely to want to have sex with you. Practice makes perfect. You can still have a lot of fun with a girl without vaginal penetration.

In short, use this as a great way to gain experience with women, don't worry about the virginity thing for now.

-Wolf

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Been with this girl for just over a year now. At the start she got with another guy at a party but I'm not really bothered about that as we weren't officially exclusive (although she didn't tell me about it for quite a while).

My problem is this though - a different guy still talks to her a lot, who she once tossed off in a cinema. He is the kinda guy that thinks everyone loves him (1000+ facebook friends etc.), but annoyingly I have seen that it works for him. My girl replies whenever he talks to her, and it makes me quite uncomfortable - I know that he's only in it for one thing.

How do I out-alpha the alpha male in the context of a relationship?

And another thing - she's going to Magaluf with lots of her mates in the summer, I trust her now but there is still the odd occasional doubt! People keep mentioning its an inner game problem, but they never offer any specific things people could do in such a situation. Any suggestions?

Big respect for your work by the way mate.

First, WHY are you afraid that your girlfriend will cheat on you? Good girls, who are happy in relationships, rarely cheat. Ho's will cheat if the other guy has higher status / wealth. Freaks will definitely cheat for the drama and/or attention, given the opportunity.

Trying to out-alpha other guys isn't going to get you anywhere. The best thing you can do to prevent your girlfriend from cheating is to keep your girlfriend happy. Do fun activities together and don't let your sex life get boring.

Figuring out inner game issues can be very complicated, which is why you don't see a lot of guides on the subject. Everybody is different. For me, it really set in when I realized that the majority of other guys out in the world are more or less "relationship-impaired". They just don't have the resources that are available on these forums or they don't have the drive to better themselves. Having a lot of different experiences with women also helped tremendously. True confidence is built from a collection of real world experiences. The more dating experience you get, the better off you are going to be.

I'm sorry I don't really have anything more helpful or practical to say on the matter. It's not an easy topic. Your best bet is to try to internalize alpha characteristics and keep reading the forums. Make a real effort to live in the moment and not dwell on negative thoughts.

-Wolf

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