Okay, so I'm trying to see if I can get this girl I've been chatting with on fb here and there to bite. This is the bait, tell me what y'all think before I send it:

"Hey game nerd, I don't really know you, but your level of nerdiness seems healthy and you seem pretty chill. You don't really know anything about me either, but let's do something with some people sometime. The only thing I can promise is awesome conversation."

-She had mentioned that she was into games in a previous brief convo. Also, she'll comment on my stuff every now and then, but other than that, we don't really know one another.

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I like this.. It's funny and a bit flirty..
Hey game nerd, I don't really know you, but your level of nerdiness seems healthy and you seem pretty chill. To get to know each more, why don't you take me out sometime for drinks? I'll bring my great stories and conversations and you bring the love! "

Yours is not bad and mine is just a suggestion

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"Hey game nerd, I don't really know you, but your level of nerdiness seems healthy and you seem pretty chill. You don't really know anything about me either, but let's do something with some people sometime. The only thing I can promise is awesome conversation."

-She had mentioned that she was into games in a previous brief convo. Also, she'll comment on my stuff every now and then, but other than that, we don't really know one another.

*Note: I'm going to be very critical so I apologize in advance*

-Starting off with "Hey game nerd..." runs the risk of her rejecting the class/title and therefore the rest of your message. She may be very interested in games but not view herself as a "nerd" per se. If that's the case, this will create social distance between your perception of her and her perception of herself.

-"...I don't really know you..." may be the truth, but its not the best way to suggest a meeting in my opinion because it brings that information to the forefront of her conscious mind.

-"...your level of nerdiness seems healthy and you seem pretty chill..." sounds like you are doubtful of your own opinion of her. And again, if she doesn't like to be labelled a nerd this becomes your second mention.

"...You don't really know anything about me either..." is unnecessary in my opinion. If this statement is true, than your goal should be change that, not establish it as a fact explicitly.

"...but let's do something with some people sometime..." sounds really vague and borderline indecisive. In my opinion it almost sounds like you're asking her to suggest something to you.

"...The only thing I can promise is awesome conversation..." is a great line, albeit overused at times.

Basically, if I understand your position correctly, you're trying to take a social interaction with a girl from the virtual plane to the physical plane. This is a big step for most people so every little thing you can do to ease that transition will be generously rewarded.

My first suggestion would be to pick something specific. If she's into games like you mentioned perhaps you can work that to your advantage. Also, if you have a plan ahead of time, this gives you a better way of approaching any questions she might have.

But most of all, try to be sensitive to any clues she has already given you. You mentioned that she occasionally comments on your media content. This may or may not be a hint but only you would be a good judge of that.

Good Luck!

Ok. I rephrased it. Sent it. And Heres what happened:

Me: I like your nerdiness. But before we do a video game, let's go out and do something chill, like a hookah and a drink. I only can promise you awesome conversation. I'm free this weekend. U? 27 minutes ago

Her: Lol your cute. I definitely have to see. Not trying to sound snobby but I'm usually pretty busy But that does sound nice thank you for the invite but I will have to get back to you on an answer


Okay, so i think this sounds awesome. But any ideas on how i should resond/play it out from here?

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"Lol your cute..." kinda sounds like she's not sure if you're serious or just messing around.

"I definitely have to see..." could go either way. Best case scenario: she wants to spend time with you and the time window of availability conflicts with her previous appointments/arrangements. Worse case scenario: she wants to blow you off without being direct about it.

"Not trying to sound snobby but I'm usually pretty busy..." confirms my hunch that she's trying to turn you down. When a women claims that she's busy it usually translates to "I'm too busy for YOU". But don't fly off the handle just yet, it could also just be a legitimate scheduling conflict.

"But that does sound nice..." is your only positive indication of hope right now. Its quite possible that you have hooked her interest (and therefore, her imagination) with your plan to share a hookah and a drink.

"...thank you for the invite but..." almost always means she plans to decline at some point. Be on the lookout for crazy excuses and wild stories that follow.

"I will have to get back to you on an answer..." could mean that she's considering your offer. It could also mean that she's thinking of the best way to let you down. Either way, she has made it very clear that, in order to keep her options open, she's going to keep you waiting for now.

So...here's what you do from here.

Step 1: Don't say anything else to her. If this is a game of chess, then its her turn to make a move.

Step 2: Make definite plans to do exactly what you said this weekend. Drink. Hookah. The Works. If you can involve a couple of your friends (guy/girl doesn't matter) even better.

Step 3: Go through with your weekend plans WITH or WITHOUT her attendance. This shows that you are not dependent on her to have a good time. This shows high value.

Step 4: Post pictures/videos of you and your friends having a good time. This will create desire in her for your company because it shows that you're a fun-loving socially active person that knows how to have a good time.

Note: This won't work as well if you go by yourself, but its doable. Long story short, she's playing hard to get, and you shouldn't ever have to put up with that.