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PostPosted: Fri Feb 08, 2013 6:16 pm 
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I'm sure I'm not the only guy here who experiences this. I'm not a patient person, which is probably why I experiences this. I periodically get a huge hatred for the game. It is this enormous anger at the complexity of the game and what it takes to close a girl. What angers me is the simple fact that it takes a colossal effort for girls to just give you the chance and be open to new things. I'm not a complete failure. I've been in the game for a short time. I've not even gone on a dedicated sarge. I've only approached a few times at a bar. I've achieved some mild success. K-closed a girl on a day 2 at the bar and a day 3 as well. But she ended up just giving up on me so that is gone. I've K-closed a couple of others too. I have yet to F-close, let alone do the impossible, which is relationship close (R-Close). I can't get a wing which is frustrating in itself. Through my experiences these bouts of extreme anger come on periodically. It doesn't take a rejection to set it off, though they do sometimes. It gets set off by just thinking about my game and how much I have to learn and do to change myself to be accepted. Girls can't accept the real me so I hate them for it because I have to change who I am for them. It is selfish.

How do you guys deal with this anger? Does anyone else experience this hatred?

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PostPosted: Sat Feb 09, 2013 7:25 pm 
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I'm sure I'm not the only guy here who experiences this. I'm not a patient person, which is probably why I experiences this. I periodically get a huge hatred for the game. It is this enormous anger at the complexity of the game and what it takes to close a girl. What angers me is the simple fact that it takes a colossal effort for girls to just give you the chance and be open to new things. I'm not a complete failure. I've been in the game for a short time. I've not even gone on a dedicated sarge. I've only approached a few times at a bar. I've achieved some mild success. K-closed a girl on a day 2 at the bar and a day 3 as well. But she ended up just giving up on me so that is gone. I've K-closed a couple of others too. I have yet to F-close, let alone do the impossible, which is relationship close (R-Close). I can't get a wing which is frustrating in itself. Through my experiences these bouts of extreme anger come on periodically. It doesn't take a rejection to set it off, though they do sometimes. It gets set off by just thinking about my game and how much I have to learn and do to change myself to be accepted. Girls can't accept the real me so I hate them for it because I have to change who I am for them. It is selfish.

How do you guys deal with this anger? Does anyone else experience this hatred?
It's your ego.

You can't accept the way you live right now.
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You're driven by outcome.

Not accepting "now" causes stress and not getting the outcome - pain and anger.


I don't deal with the hatred, I accepted that my life is awesome, every negative aspect of my life is fucking awesome, I love everything in my life. <3
And I don't go for goals, I live right now, I live for the things that I can do right now. (e.g. I actually love reading all the PUA material and improving myself, listening to music, dancing, helping people and spreading positiviness through the world, doing good stuff overally, being a powerful, yet a caring and free guy, meditating, going to the gym, meeting new people, approaching girls, saving up money, creating a life and all the rest of the things, I could even love my work if I had a terrible one.)


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 9:58 am 
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It's your ego.

You can't accept the way you live right now.
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You're driven by outcome.

Not accepting "now" causes stress and not getting the outcome - pain and anger.


I don't deal with the hatred, I accepted that my life is awesome, every negative aspect of my life is fucking awesome, I love everything in my life. <3
And I don't go for goals, I live right now, I live for the things that I can do right now. (e.g. I actually love reading all the PUA material and improving myself, listening to music, dancing, helping people and spreading positiviness through the world, doing good stuff overally, being a powerful, yet a caring and free guy, meditating, going to the gym, meeting new people, approaching girls, saving up money, creating a life and all the rest of the things, I could even love my work if I had a terrible one.)
Damn, that's the stuff. This man said it all. Right there. Yes, awesome.

You've got to build your inner game, Eerie. Become a mountain, build strength, mental and physical. Stormy wrote a great post here. I hope it helps, and take some thought into what OverlordPaws here
wrote, that's tight stuff. Kudos to you paws.

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I don't see how I can change who I am like that. Results motivate me. I want positive outcomes. I hate playing this intricate game. I want things to be simple and natural. I can't live in the now because I'm not where I want to be. I don't enjoy what I have. I see people all around me succeed without even being involved in the game. I feel as if I have to work so hard to have only a hope at success let alone actually realizing a goal. I hate this game. It has to be done. It feels like a chore.

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Hey, at least you have the game to fall back on. What do AFC's have? They face the same obstacles you do but without any of the tools to make things better.

I hate having to go to work, pay bills, and be responsible, but it's a lot better than homelessness.

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I hate the game but I have to play it and get better.

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 9:58 pm 
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I feel you, still somewhat loathsome to the effort it takes to seduce women...

One of the best things in life you can learn is how to not take shit so personally... Women arent trying to destroy you, nor are they all hateful bitches that want to see you squirm. Life sucks and like ninja said you have to do all kinds of things in life that require you to do some hard work that is shitty.... Its not personal, just life.

You reap what you sow.....

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 08, 2013 9:05 am 
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There is no need to change yourself. If some girls don't accept the real you, then bit it, is their lost, not yours. Just be patient, I know there are other girls who like the real you, and accept who you are.


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I hate that these girls cant accept me. I get extremely angry at how difficult things seem to be for me. I've never had a girl care about me the way I felt about them, yet I know many friends who bounce between girls constantly. I hate the game. I hate women.

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