Ok so for girls that I have met on a night out but haven't shagged. After meeting up for a coffee, get a good vibe from them we plan to meet for a drink sometime. When is the best time to be honest and say you are not looking for a relationship and just after casual sex? How would you say it and when would be the best time? Does it always have to be after you've shagged?

I always do it after... if you do it before, you run the risk of getting into a "serious" talk or ruining the vibe. It's not dishonest. Unless it's after like 3 or 5 dates.

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D.G.A.F. isn't just a state. It's a lifestyle.

Lets put it this way...Does it make sense to tell a girl that after you've been on 3 or 5 dates without sex that you are just looking for something casual?

Let the flow of the date go there and voice it implicitly or you can be explicit if she leads into that area.

This is the way it works for me :you have to suggest it without really saying it. Women are very intuitive they always pick up on that. Your tone of voice (flirty and deep), your posture, your topics of conversation (good metaphors of your intentions), and the way you look at her, all those things should suggest your intentions. If she responds to all these things then it is obvious what she is also consenting to. What I like about this is that you two are communicating in another level, and it is more exciting than just saying: "I'm not looking for something serious right now"

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don't mention it unless she brings it up. and normal girls usually don't bring it up until a few dates in. then I say I'm really focused on my career, so I'm not looking for anything serious, which is true.

If you follow Patrice O'Neils philosophy you tell her like man, say "you dig her" and if she doesn't wanna play you take your ball.and go home. Stay logical