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Ok, here's the details of the date:
2 unexpected factors happened on the date...
1) she brought 2 of her friends at the last second, 1 guy and 1 girl
2) she only stayed an hour because she said her friend had to wake up early
and on the side, 3) she was super late, to the point I was ready to just walk out.
I'm not a shy guy. I'm very outgoing and love being around people. Her friends actually didn't prove to be a problem... She introduced me to them as her Hobo Husband (I got an inside joke going with her a long time ago how we would move into a cardboard box together and get married) which is also what she had referred to me as when she told them about me (her telling her friends about me, I always take as a serious IOI). I made a couple jokes, they all laughed, and they spent the rest of the time talking to each other and didn't get in the way. Not awkward in any way.
HBFlakey and I got on much better in person than I expected... in text, she says very little unless I roleplay with her, sometimes doesn't respond, and is of course super flakey. In person, she spoke plenty. No awkward silences. I get her laughing a lot, she tells me about her past, etc. Plenty of comfort and I kinoed when possible. At one point she offers me to taste her beer, and I make a crack how I have herpes. She laughs, but her female friend turns around and takes it seriously, clearly doesn't think it's funny apparently b/c someone she knew caught herpes. HBFlakey tells me not to mind her, that she can't take a joke. We played a game of pool and she kind of moseyed around between her friends and the game and some guy sitting nearby she apparently knew.
I didn't know she had to leave early until they were getting ready to go, so I was unprepared for it. Normally I would have kiss closed her on the spot, but I didn't want to do it in front of her friends.
I get to my car and send her a text, "Hey, had fun tonight."
Her immediate response, something along the lines of "Yeah, me too. Let's do it again soon"
The other day I made a crack about how I made her my pretend texting girlfriend, but not to expect me to put out. She makes a half-kidding suggestive comment suggesting I can expect "a bath" (I'm not sure how she thought this was relevant) twice a week, maybe once a day... in the context of the conversation, it was pretty clear she meant sex. Then she says she only fucks herself, but doesn't mind an audience. Brings up the "only fucks herself" thing once more.
Other than that, since the date, it's just been more half-assed texts from her and 1 flaked date.
You will see this happen a lot with girls who are meeting guys for the first time. they will meet the guy for the first time with a friends. It is an insurance policy that your not going to be able to do anything to crazy with a second girl there.
It sounds like you had things going well but you didn't read the clues. If you got a girl talking about what she does to herself and how she would let you watch. she is attracted to you. you needed to escalate on her and make it memorable. What ends up happening is the fact that your not being the man and taking her lead what she is telling you. You are waiting for he to do the work. On that date if you would of escalated more in isolation you could she would be wanting to get alone with you pretty easily.
She talked about you on the way home probably. And made a decision that your not going to work for at that time. get her having fun over text then invite her out to something she would like to do that you are willing to do anyways. she has been out with you before probally going to come alone this time and escalate.
CHAT
