Ok so, met this girl at work 3 months ago.. been gaming pretty hard... got to the point of holding hands quite quickly... however I threw a spanner in the works a month in, and had to win her friendship back. I did.. although kino may have taken a hit in doing so..

Bit of background - she's comfortable talking about sex with me, comfortable texting me late at night.... I really thought I may have been on to a winner. She does however, sometimes mention blokes she's seeing.

We were talking once at lunch and she mentioned how she was attracted to this pro-athlete for the main reason that he has marketed himself as a "one woman guy". I knew she thought I was a player, so I addressed that there and then with some bullshit about how players are actually looking for one girl blah blah, they've been hurt a lot in the past.

She said "so is there someone right now that you like that you are holding back from because you don't want to get hurt?"

I replied "Maybe"

She said "you should talk to her" - IT WAS SO OBVIOUS WHAT WAS GOING ON to us both that it kills me to think about it.

Anyway I left it there, but later on at midnight she sends me a meme with the following text "Maybe god wants us to meet a few wrong people so that when we meet the right one, we will know how to be grateful".

So i'm thinking, its ON. it has to be. unless i'm a complete mug.

Turns out i'm a mug.


Met her on Saturday night, out for dinner... had fun... walked back to hers and brought up the conversation above at her door.

me: "So, i was wondering if when we had that conversation over lunch, you thought it was obvious who I was talking about?"

*she hesitates, plays dumb, and acts somewhat surprised. (she also says "why are you doing this now, its a saturday night")

me: "so If i went to kiss you on the cheek goodbye but I missed, what would you do?"

her: "I'de say, "why are you kissing me". don't kiss me"

me: "ok, well thats all I needed to know" - note that my tone here was very warm, inquisitive, and humble.




anyway..

she calls me up the next day asking if I'm ok... i act as if nothing happened and the convo was light hearted and lasted 2 mins.

I haven't texted her since although I saw her briefly in the corridor at work... (made some light hearted convo for a minute)

the crux of the issue is that she only has a few days left in the office that i'm in... i don't want to loose contact because of this shit..

wondering what your take on the situation is... is she attracted? what should be my M-O going forwards?


Thanks.

I feel like a major leach on this forum but when I make it guys, i'll come back with some gold.

Well, you aren't a mug, but you broke some rules that i follow, i'll try and explain them here.

First of all, you never tell a girl you like her, you SHOW it to her. Thats why kino is important, when you keep kinoing she will get comfortable with you touching her, and when the moment is right, you go in for the kiss, you may get rejected but then just brush it off with something like "haha to bad, wouldve sealed the night good", and then act normal around heer, keep kinoing but don't talk about the kiss. Also don't apologize for the kiss or etc.

Now second, you go to lunch and dinner etc, but did you make your interest clear beforehand? Does she know you are a player? If so why was she suprised when you wanted to kiss her after taking dinner. What I do is I make my intentions clear, that way I don't have to deal with shit with like wow didnt think you liked me,etc. However it doesn't always work so I myself have to find a little balance with showing intent..

Anyways good luck and ill be happy to discuss more with you !

Thanks for the quick response dude i really appreciate it. I understand what you're saying and I do know that the things you say are correct... it just got a bit weird with this girl after I pissed her off and then had to win her back (as a god damn friend basically; nearly zero kino afterwards, when before we used to massage each other)

anyway what do you think should be the game going forwards? Shes at my office for three days now and thats it... so i figure i need to do something low pressure quite quickly right? what would be your suggestions?

dude, you're a hero.

Bro, you're saying you pissed her off, and then tried to get her back trough a way you DIDN'T want(the friends way). Remember in the post before this one I told you to not apologize? Wanna know why? Because you're supposed to be an alpha male, you do what you want, and don't take shit from noone for it, not even her! You're not supposed to win anyone back, if they leave you and don't return by themselves, they're not for you and not worth you're trouble fighting for her. So the real advice I want to give you is, ignore her and move on because your situation is almost to late to get anything out of without putting in alot of unnecessary effort which has almost only 20% chance of success I would guess.

I would suggest reading on inner-game and reading alot of alpha male books, learn from this situation/experience and make sure you don't in one like this again by following my and other user tips(and read alot!!).

To be honest, I can't think of a way to win her back in 3 days, and I don't really understand what you're trying to do, fuck her in these 3 days before she leaves? Will you see her after that ? If you won't see her, try to forget her. If there is a chance to see her, what you're gonna try these 3 days is to freeze her out, but you gotta be hard and strong to do that, fully ignore her and when you meet her try to be as distant as possible, she'll begin to wonder whats wrong and when that happens you MAY have a little chance of building up attraction!

Play it safe, be cool and don't push her too hard.

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