Hey guys
So this is something the guys at Pick Up Artist South Africa (PUA SA) came up with. I've searched all over and have not been able to find anything quite like it. For years now, guys have been using the same openers over and over again. Most of the time, these openers are 'stolen' from a few PUA's who managed to come up with some original ones, or taken directly from searching for openers on the internet. Very few guys manage to create their own effective openers, mainly because up until now there has not been any direct system for guys to follow that would enable them to create their own openers. By creating your own opener, you can use something that you are comfortable with, as opposed to stealimg some other PUA's work.
May I present to you the Create Your Own Opener system....
There are 10 criterion that go into creating your own opener. How this works is that each criteria counts 1 point, thus giving the opener a rating system out of 10 points total. The best openers (that cover each criteria) will get 10/10 and will be your most effective opener most of the time!
CRITERION
1) Start with 'Hey guys'
2) False time constraints
3) Relationship based
4) Opinion
5) Qualification
6) DHV
7) Disqualification
Social Value
9) Pre-selection
10) Ethics and morals
ANALYSIS
1) We recommend using 'Hey guys!' and pausing for a second before starting the main part of your opener because this gives the girls a chance to stop their conversation and look up at you. The last thing you want is to start your opener while the girls are in the middle of their conversation- they may not hear you or think you are rude for interupting. 'Hey guys' ensures this does not happen!
2) False time constraints are important because they ensure the girls that you are not there to hit on them all night. It shows you are there for a limited amount of time before going off and having fun elsewhere. It helps put them at ease.
3) The opener should be relationship/ sex based for the simple reason that girls love talking about that stuff. The point of the opener is to give yourself the best chance of creating a strong conversation and connection with the girl. Its easy for them to talk about and they love giving their opinions and own personal experience in such topics. It's the female version of talking sports.
4) Opinion openers seem to work the best in exending the opener as far as possible. Although not imperative, opinion openers get a great conversation going and you will often find yourself on the topic 5-10 minutes later. Remember, everyones favourite topic is themselves!
5) Qualifying the girl through your opener so that she has to PROVE HERSELF TO YOU from the outset is also a very strong technique. Normally guys are the ones that try prove themselves to the girls- turn this mistake around and act like you are in charge!!
6) Demonstrating Higher Value in your opener (without showing off and bragging) is a subtle way to communicate your value to a girl, before she even knows or has spoken a word to you!
7) Disqualifying the girl will give her the subtle impression that she is not good enough for you and is a powerful technique that will make her want to work harder for you. (If she is blonde then imply in your opener that you like brunettes!)
Social value displays that you are popular. This will make the girls want to be part of your life and social circle.
9) Pre-selection is social value but particularly with females. By showing that there are other girls in your life, it will appear that other girls like you, and will make the girls you open jelous and want to also be part of your life!
10) Ethics and morals are a form of DHV, and show the girls that you are a genuinely good guy. This gives them all the more reason to want to get to know you more.
EXAMPLE
'Hey guys, quick question! My friend hooked up with a girl a month ago, and since then she hasn't left me alone! She seems pretty cool, but is it wrong for me to let things progress?'
1) Start with 'Hey guys' - yes
2) False time constraints - yes
3) Relationship based - yes
4) Opinion - yes
5) Qualification - yes (would she do the right thing, or would she screw her friend over?)
6) DHV - yes (another girl wants you)
7) Disqualification - yes (i'm not hitting on you, there's another girl in my life so i'm not interested in you)
Social Value - yes (you have a friend)
9) Pre-selection - yes (a girl wants you)
10) Ethics and morals - (you are debating weather or not you should proceed with a friends ex hook up)
So that is an example of an opener that is a 10/10.
NOTE: If at any point, the opener DLV's (Demonstrates Lower Value) either directly or indirectly you will receive 1 MINUS point. This is the only time points get subtracted. If you fail to complete any of the other criterion you receive 0 for that criteria and no points are deducted.
Hope this helps you guys in creating your own openers! We encourage you to use any topic that is currently happening in your life as a base for the opener- this will come across as more genuine and natural as opposed to just copying and pasting other guys openers! This is not a perfect art but is definitely a great guide for all those guys out there that would like to be original but have no idea how! Try it out and your feedback would be appreciated!
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