girlfriend had one of her guy friends text her asking if she knew anyone who needed a roomate, dude eventally stated if she found something for him he would eat her out. she "if she would dingle she would be all over it and would be having his kids... this really upset me. and quite honestly i'm disgusted. i dont know what to do. i feel disrepected that she didnt tell him that was inappropriate. so what do i do from here? help quick

No offense bro but it sounds like you have a shitty girlfriend if she wouldn't even tell him to cut the shit. Did she tell you that he texted her this?? What was her response to the msg he sent? And I would bring it up casually if you want. Just say, "Hey your phone was lying around and you got a text from some guy that really wants a taste of your cherry pie... I'm not into threesomes baby. Wtf???"

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Wait, what did she say? Your wording wasn't quite clear.

However it sounds to me like you need to next her ass. For one thing, if you feel the need the check her phone then something isn't right, but regardless, you found this and I wouldn't be tolerant of it.

i asked to use her phone to test picture messaging on my phone cause i wasnt getting pictures. i seen it and asked about it. she grabbed for her phone and tired to take it from me. i asked what was on there that she didnt want me to see. and i found it. she just stood there and had a blank look on her face. i told her i didnt appreciate it i felt it was disrespectful and she didnt have anything to say. i got up and left. she tired calling i didnt awnser. she left me a text that said " tell me whats going on please im not going to play your game of not talikng for weeks". that's where its at right now.

Her words are "if i was single i would be all over it and we would be having buff green eyed babies" word for word.

She's a ho. Not your gf anymore.

Exactly this cut all ties or just use for sex and start gaming other girls

I'm guessing that you guys are the few folks on this forum who never inquire or offer advice for, "How do I game a girl who already has a boyfriend?" Not picking on you guys specifically but it is interesting that in a forum where the "steal a girlfriend" topic is raised so frequently that the same group is also so unforgiving of girls who flirt once in a while.

I'm guessing you guys are young and probably don't have marriage in mind yet. Relax a bit and have fun. You will discover a lot of contradictions when you go through a bunch of relationships. You will never simply love everything about a girl nor you will hate everything about a girl. . . and the funny thing is that you will often find yourselves hating and loving the same traits.

We fall in love with a girl because she might be flirty and fun loving . . . but later on, we hate them for being "too" flirty and fun loving. We might fall in love with a girl because she's career minded and has a good head on her shoulders, but later on, we might hate them for being "too" career minded. You'll never get it exactly as you please. It's the search for something that can never be found that leads to misery.

Why so much emphasis on the preemptive break-up? Especially based on some random flirt?

Update, she sent me a text, saying "im sorry"

she called and i asked her to explain herself. she couldn't. all she said was "im sorry" not even one of those frantic sorry's like hey i really fucked up. she tired to say she it was a joke... im not buying it... if it was a joke she could have said that fbefore i walked out on her. i left the conversation with i need some time to think. she said im not going to wait for you bs and i told her fine then i'm done. she quickly changed her tune. she said i will give you some space. and that's where i am now.

a few things that are bothering me is the fact that she doesn't really seem that upset about this situation. and i could even sense a bit of hostility in her voice.

i did explain to her that she needs to contact dude and inform him he needs to stop this bs or i will do it myself.
she agreed she would tell him he needs to back off.

i feel like i'm not getting any remorse from her...

so at this point i don't know what to do. i don't know how i'm going to trust her. please give me your wisdom!

If she never understands what she did wrong and that is was insanely disrespectful, also that if it ever happens again she is gone faster than light moves, then it is pointless to continue with her

she understands it was wrong and disrespectful. and said if the tables were turned she would feel the same way.

I used to and still joke around like that with girls all the time.

It's one thing to say "I'd fuck the shit outta you" and a totally different one "If I were single I'd have your green eyed babies".

It was a joke man. I don't think it even was much of a flirt , rather a friendly deflection. Hence the "if I were single" and the "green eyed babies".She probably didn't know how to respond to the guy's sexual advance and just chose a funny reply.

My opinion is that you're over reacting. You are making decisions based solely on emotion.

The fact that you felt some hostility in her voice can be her trying to battle her ego. For some people after they get 'dumped' it's hard enough to make that I'm sorry call , don't expect them to crawl on their knees asking for your forgiveness especially if they feel you're reason is invalid.And yours kinda is.

That's my opinion.

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R.C has a point there, after all she started it with "If i was single..." which means she isn't and it's not gonna happen..

At the same time I like how you handled this, especially for future events if you choose to stay with her.
You clearly put your foot down and were willing to walk away. That was quite mature and it gave her the right signals.
After all it was a slight insult to you, otherwise she hadn't been trying to hide it...

You can sit her down and tell her that her pussy belongs to you, and should she ever indirectly lead other guys on again or even go further, that will be the end of the relationship.

Either way, follow through with what you told her and think about it for a few days without contacting her, then make your decision.

Your missing the fact that she said she "would be all over it" is showing interest in him. as if shes was encouraging him to escalate. shes not single shes with me plan and simple. when i asked her about this part of the message she sent him she said: "well if i was single"... she admitted she would.

I haven't read all the posts here and don't know what kind of advice you have gotten, but I will tell you 1 thing, and listen very clear to what I have to say!

IF you make a big deal out of it, and leave her for it or be upset at her for it, and somehow you two break up or something, SHE WILL MESSAGE HIM AND FUCK HIM LIKE NO OTHER!! Get what I mean? And you will cry and regret what you did forever!!

so listen to me, and make no big deal of it and tell her :ok i thought about it, i hope i made my point clear that i dont like you flirting with other guys like that, done.

Dont talk about it again and have fun with her or else that other guy will !