Though I've been getting by with setting up dates and stuff, I've recently been losing my drive to open girls in the field. Even whilst I open people, it doesn't get me instate, I don't feel a drive to push myself like I did when I started out in PUA.

A very experienced friend of mine told me that apparently this was me becoming non-needy; I know I can approach and escalate and do something with it and have done so many times before, so it becomes nothing much to me.

He told me about the use of setting goals to push and force yourself out of your comfort zone. I thought I'd give this a go, so I've come up with a few goals thus far:


- Open 8 sets a night minimum, or until you find a girl you believe you can pull.
- Direct approach (something I've been slipping out of recently...)
- If one extraction attempt doesn't work out, get back in the game and carry on! (something that happens to me a lot)
- If possible, isolate and extract ASAP.


Do any of you guys have experience in goal setting? Would appreciate your feedback!

Ninja

you should only do it when you feel like it.

the fact is that your not driven by fear to talk to strangers.

15/02/13 - Season 2, Episode 6: Rewired

I've been doing a little reading. In particular, I've been reading this chapter from Anthony Robbin's "Awaken the Giant Within". There's this one chapter that states that everything we do is either to gain positive emotions or to avoid negative emotions. And mentions that is possible to rewire your thought processes through this knowledge!

Needless to say I thought I'd give this a shot. I wrote down the behaviours relevant to sarging, my current thought process of them, and the desired thought process and action to make it better. There's a table full of these behaviours at my flat! lol

I discovered that my thoughts surrounding opening were not that great, but my thoughts about escalation were 'fun, arousing, exciting'. With this in mind, I thought I'd give this theory a shot; not sarging to open girls and get approachs out of the way, but sarging to create tension, emotion and arousal for both parties through escalation.

I was actually out later that night as I was meant to be meeting a girl (my Russian wing's leftovers!!!) later that evening. I got there early, sporting the Bruno Mars hat-and-scarf, and the girl is late (again! She was late yesterday for our Valentine's meetup...). So I decide to creep, no hesitation, no holding back!

I actually enjoy myself and behave enthusiastically for the first time in a while! It's also worth noting that I had no-one to latch to and didn't talk about game with any of my wings (I was them only one there).

I behaved in a very open, extroverted and social manner. ALL BY MYSELF! Using my pent-up confidence and relaxation with these situations that I have developed to much better use! All my sets went relatively well, it was like my eyes have opened again!

Needless to say I achieved a LOT of social proof, people all around starting in my direction like I'd just killed someone in plain sight.

I met a very cute rocker girl later on in the night, she opened me asking for a lighter. She actually recognised as the guy dressed as Cupid, she was impressed! So I struck hard but discretely like a ninja! Building up tension, emotion and arousal just as I used to, it wasn't hard to get the makeout and get her very interested in me.

But then a guy came outside. The girl hid behind me, saying 'That guy has been stalking me for 5 hours today trying to get me out'. I think it's hilarious how girl's opinions of other potential suitors seems to change on a whim around men they are attracted to

He came up to us asked her who I was and how I knew her. I didn't even bother hiding it, we said we were 'fag buddies' (she was smoking). The guy then said, 'I'm with her'. It became apparent that he was her 'date'. He then tried to kiss her quite directly, and failed miserably! I like how I stole his Valentine, LOL! I quickly got her name recorded in my phone (as she had legitimately broke her phone)

I then meet up with the girl I'm meant to be meeting, and get bored and go home! Was still a very good night! I now know what drives me; it's escalation, motion > emotion, sexcual tension and arousal that I longed for!

FUCK YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Ninja