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As far as you mentioning that you think you might have some type of mental disorder, I have to be honest with you. The MOMENT I started reading this I could detect what it was - you more than likely have Autism Spectrum Disorder / Aspergers. How do I know? Because I have it too. The thing about this is I'm not sure if a forum like this is for most people with any level of Autism / Aspergers, etc since the people who create these forums and teach dating/approach game are writing from a "normal person point of view." Since many people with aspergers / autism spectrum disorder have no idea that there is even a name for the way they are and haven't been diagnosed, there are plenty of people who assume that they have Social Anxiety Disorder since the symptoms are pretty much similar. However, there's a big difference between Social Anxiety Disorder (physiological) and Autism Spectrum Disorder (psychological). The main difference is Social Anxiety Disorder CAN be "cured" (although it does seem impossible to cure it for those who genuinely have it). No one is born with social anxiety. It is developed over time. Autism Spectrum Disorder, on the other hand, is the way your brain is wired and part of who you are. Therefore, unfortunately, you're stuck with it for life. This directly affects your social and communication skills and the way you think. And since people who are autistic (at ANY level!! Doesn't have to be FULL autism...) tend to think differently, act weird, and can never seem to fit in with society, they will, of course, freak a lot of women out and have the hardest time understanding what to do and how to do it right. Day game and PUA techniques and dating gurus, etc. can either be helpful or EXTREMELY LETHAL to anyone on the autism spectrum... and I'll briefly explain why.
The problem is since we people in the autism world tend to think, act, and see the world much differently from the normal people who create the rules of society and expect everyone else to abide by them (or else you end up being bullied, teased, and rejected), we tend to do a lot of things that seem normal and make *logical* sense in our minds, but come across as extremely eccentric / weird / creepy / socially awkward in person. People with borderline personality disorder, social anxiety disorder, maybe even bipolar (and be aware of bipolar girls, by the way...) may have a few similar traits, but this is especially a serious problem for autistics / aspies. Problem gets bigger when it comes to learning how you're supposed to / expected to act in society to gain acceptance from majority normal society. Why? Because you are trying to learn "how to be normal" by having a normal person teach you as you interpret what's being said through an autistic mindset. Since people on the Autism Spectrum over-analyze, over-think, and overdo it when it comes to being logical, we have a tendency to interpret and do the right things the wrong way. A perfect example would be Sheldon on Big Bang Theory. Notice how there is a huge "disconnect" between himself and the rest of the normal world. He's highly intelligent and very full of scientific facts and logic, but sucks badly when it comes to social skills. This is one reason why people in the Autism Community highly respect that show for attempting to introduce these type of weird/foreign behaviors to the normal world. Problem remains, though, that since they are afraid to say whether or not it represents autism/aspergers because they don't want to cause any trouble or get lawsuits for "mocking," no one is going to learn about aspergers or autism and people will just believe that Sheldon (and most of the characters are) "weird."
But enough about that. Back to autism (and mental disorders) and day game. Remember when I said that Autistic people are extremely logical thinkers? Now you can understand why it would be super difficult for people like us to get and understand women. The natural "creepy / awkward" behavior that comes with autism doesn't help, either. I've managed to change and find a certain level of success. However, most people with autism NEVER change (or change the right way) enough to fit in with normal society and many of them tend to never find a mate and never manage to make or keep friends. A lot of autistics are also not self-aware so they don't even have any idea what they're doing to scare people away. At least you (the original poster) are aware that something is not right.... Now it's time for you to see about getting a diagnosis and work with it. What to do next? Well, looks as if you're on a roll with your campus approaches. This is too similar to how I started doing my approaches and trying crazy things and becoming over confident - ON CAMPUS, JUST LIKE YOU, when I overcame social anxiety... LONG story, wont get into that now. Luckily I never weirded anyone out to the point that they called security or cops (as a matter of fact, I actually became friends with security). But I HAVE had some incidents where I did things that caused a few bad responses that shook up my confidence. But keep in mind that OTHER people in the normal world also have their mental disorders. If that girl you approached had PTSD, then I can understand why she called the cops if anything you said or did triggered her Post Tramatic Stress Responses....
And this is what makes everything so hard! Everybody is different and a lot of people have different issues going on, although most PUA and dating/lifestyle gurus teach as if everyone is the same. What do you think will happen if you use the same lines and techniques on a religious girl or an autistic girl who is asexual and aromantic? What do you think will happen if you approach a girl with Selective Mutism, social phobia, bipolar disorder, or even someone with extremely different cultural values? And how about those autistic girls who come across as very friendly and you think you're getting somewhere and it turns out that those were not IOI's, but they just come across that way because they are naturally giggly / smily and superfriendly by nature? (Oh, and autistic / asperger women are difficult to get to, especially if you are applying day game, by the way).
And that's just a BRIEF SUMMARY of it all.
I don't have anything against day game or learning these "techniques" since it will help people for the most part and I've figured out how to use it in a correct manner. But I have to admit that many of these instructors (if not all of them) don't know sh*t about the different mental disorders that exist that can cause people to naturally be a certain way. Chances are that if someone is very eccentric personality wise, (according to normal society) there is something "wrong" with them. In other words, they have a mental "disorder." I personally wouldn't call being super smart and being able to memorize and have extensive knowledge about "weird things" but having an inability to understand and pick up social cues, etc. a "disorder." But like I said, majority normal society make and define the rules that we live by. This is why many of us are here "learning to be normal" or "learning how to be" for more success and acceptance. Einstein himself didn't fit in with society and despite his intelligence, he was held back due to his lack of social skills. But he did end up gaining recognition and becoming known for his autistic intelligence later in life and after he died. Would anyone say Einstein had a "disorder?"
Anyway, I just wanted to fill you and others in a little bit on things from a different point of view. I think you should google "Aspergers" and "Autism Spectrum Disorder." Lastly, keep in mind that normal people do not like long posts. Yours was interesting enough to read through, but the normal world pretty much hates full thorough detail and just wants a quick snippet of incomplete information that may or may not be true. This is one reason why the news media gives small pieces of news with incomplete details... and why you're not supposed to send long text messages. As hard as it may be for an autistic, you MUST learn how to shorten things and leave details out (even if it means posting or delivering incomplete information and getting the wrong advice or response as a result).
When I saw this post, I knew I had to create an account and say something. Yes, there is a chance that you may not have any form of autism and it may be something else or just pure social awkwardness. But chances are VERY HIGH that you have aspergers because everything from the specific situation to how it made you think to the way you started putting yourself down tells me that you have it (and this is coming from me, someone who is actually on the autism spectrum). You had the perfect reactions and thoughts for someone on the autism spectrum, including the thought that there has to be something "wrong" with you but you don't know what it is. That's how many people are before finding out about aspergers/autism. Go on facebook and find "Asperger Syndrome" or "Aspergers Adult Support" and other Autism community pages and see if you can relate to anything there.
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