So I've sent a couple of emails back and forth with this Finnish lass online, then I get this...

Haha, ok first of all, I'm def not that tardy normally. Quite the opposite actually I guess...

Do you mean if just this city would dissappear or also the people here? Anyway, I think there're so many different places which are all one of a kind, that it's impossible to name only three But any case for me the most important thing here are my friends, I know that they are the reason which makes this city so special for me. I mean of course I also love so many places here, but I wouldn't experience it in a same way without my friends.

Yes, I had decided to leave dating site, but apparently dating.dk has stolen 500 kr from my account and forced me to stay here another 10 weeks.... And to be honest I'm not too happy about that, but shit happens. But anyway, I have to tell you that I prefer to meet face to face, so I'm not gonna write with you for weeks without meeting up anyway. I'm sorry to be so straightforward, but that's me. I know that you can write here with the coolest person on earth forever, and in the end have no idea what he/she is really like, and I don't want that.

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Sanna

The last paragraph I assumed was a pretty big hint, so...

Haha, if that's your attempt at asking me out I think you may need to work on it a little bit, maybe soften it up a tad!

Joking aside, I appreciate your forthrightness. I guess you're the type of girl who knows what she wants and is very direct and driven at getting it (other than getting your money back from dating.dk).

I'm pretty busy this week (largely haggis related), so how's about Monday or Tuesday evening next week?

Bri

PS. I should add that I wasn't planning on being accused of imaginery genocide...I was assuming everybody had gone to live at the beach or something.

Now, I evidently fucked up, as she read this...waited a day...checked out my profile again and now 5 or 6 days later, nothing. So 1) where exactly did I fuck up and 2) chalk it up to experience or is there any decent advice on how to recover?

Cheers, in advance.

Move on.

Honestly, your message is fine except for where you teased her in the beginning. She went against basic dating norms to ask YOU out instead of the usual. That's going against a pretty strong norm for someone she doesn't even know. And you busted her balls for it.

You can try to save it, but if it reaches this point it's a hard thing to do. Whenever I want to resuscitate a conversation, I send something like, "Hey dork, still alive?" and maybe throw in something along the lines of "Did your evil stepmother lock you in a tower?" or whatever. But since you already gave her shit and she bailed because of it, I would say something nicer.

Even if they do respond, it's uncommon that it gets the conversation fully back on track. It always sucks when it seems like a sure thing/ the girl seems cool and then it fizzles out for seemingly no reason. Unfortunately that's going to happen a lot with online game, especially since women can be incredibly fickle.

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Cheers for that Baron, it's funny how obvious it is now that you've pointed it out.