So i dump my ex girlfriend 4 months ago.Clean break,even though we were together she
Had the upper hand and i was coming off as needy at the time.Anyway she started
Seeing this new guy but out of the blue started contacting me.My feelings for
Her came back and i wanted her back but on my terms now.she dumped the guy.And after i agree
To meet her plutonically we ended up having sex.And it was torrid
She came in 5 mins then again in 5 mins.
Anyway i tell her im not her fuck buddy and im not gonna provide her
With sex till shes lucky on POF again.shes been telling me im her soulmate
And im the best fuck she ever had.I agree but i want a proper
Relationship with her despite the fact that i was verbally abusive in the
Past.i have corrected that trait in myself and apologised
For that without any intentions toward her.
Shes confused cuz she loves me and she knows i love her too
But she refuses to be official again but wants me to be her fuck buddy
I told her im not having it and its best we dont commuicate.
I even pulled out styles 100% perfect girl story.But no dice.I might see her
For a beer tommorw night,cuz we do enjoy each others company.
Whats my best strategy here to get her in a relationship and not just a fuck buddy.
When im dating she gets angry,when shes on pof in pissed off too.
What to do to keep the game in my favor?

Let her go and chase you. Meet her for a beer, make-out and etc. Tell her that this "isn't right" and leave. Basically give her blue-balls. Go out and date other people. Give it a couple of weeks/months and then try again.

I agree with the above poster.

I think it's a strong move that you're absolutely crystal clear in what you want, don't back down from that. I've been there, I've wanted something a girl I was seeing didn't, but because I liked her so much I let myself get strung along for sex and contact with her whilst my feelings grew all the while and I ended up really hurt. Settling for less than what you want is low value and makes you less attractive.

By all means meet her, but do what Sharp said. Make sure you're dating other people, you're crystal clear with what you want and you're prepared to dump her ass if she's not down for that.

Jeez Dude, you must know how to rock her world. Yep, you gotta make her chase you more so knows you are valuable. If she is an honest, ask her to disable her POF account if you two were to commit again. I did that with my ex and she is perfectly fine with that.

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Honestly it's not really all that tough. You want a relationship, she wants to be a Fuck Buddy. Her wanting to be a fuck buddy would be nice but you have feelings for her. Do you game her until she decides to be in relationship with you? I say big NO. I don't believe game is a manipulation but it's a emotional trigger mechanism. Is you are gaming her and you get her into a relationship, who is to say she wont leave as quickly as you let your guard down.

Most important thing is to be honest. If she wants to play around let her, give her an opportunity to get that out of her system and after she wants to settle down and be in a relationship then she will be ready for that. If you don't want to be a fuck buddy then don't but gaming her into a relationship is a mistake in my oppinion.

Good news guys,i kept my frame going
Continued to demonstrate high value,and stuck
With scheduling specifictimes to be with her,showed her
That my time is valuable,I was honest and told her
About the last 7 girls lve been dating,but kept it cool
And casual but above all else maintained and positioned
Myself as the catch.
Im happy to say she has come to me wanting an exclusive relationship
And we're more in love than ever before and the sex is amazing.
She says now that shes a bit insecure becuase im always genuinely busy and
She says that now im used to the attention of multiple women shes insecure.
How do i keep my frame going without falling into the trap of pandering to her
But still apease her insecurity.Im going to my hometown for two weeks for
My sisters wedding she cant get the time off to come with,and i have lots of old flames there that she knows about.How do i reassure
Her,keep my frame going,and come back and still have a girlfriend?