If anyone has followed my last thread then you know that my girl and I got in a fight. I was stressed, PTSD from Iraq, and sent her running. I sought help, new meds and I am doing better. GF wanted a break, I didn't freak out (inside I did). We talked Wednesday night and I got all stupid mushy. That night I sent her a FB message saying I think the break would be good, I was just beginning to heal and I said I was sorry for the stress I caused. I also changed our FB relation to it's complicated. Thursday came and she was all texting all day. I was at school and played it off. Even called and sent her to VM and got a I was thinking of you. I texted later that her VM made me smile. She also bitched me out for changing our relationship status and asked me to never do that again. We ended up talking and decided to go out Friday, she asked me to spend the night and I played it off as maybe. She even called twice on her way home to verify I was coming over. I left early in the morning saying I had shit to do even though she asked me to stay a bit longer but I left. I called her later to see how she was feeling; been really sick for over a week and started her period (when this girl gets stressed out, she gets angry). The night before she asked me what I was doing Saturday and I said I don't know, I was going to play it by ear. Well, she called and texted a few times Saturday asking me what my plans were, when I told her I was sick, which is true and got it from her, she got disappointed because she wanted to go to Chuckie Cheese with her kids and I. Come now, I had to go to play video games. She even asked me to spend the night, I agreed but when we were going to bed I told her it was best to go home, being sick and all. I decided in the middle of the night to be cute and texted her that I woke up, reached for her and she wasn't there. She got up this morning and texted back"that was your fault". Texted her a free times and got one word answers and no response to "you are my mind". Then I made the mistake of calling her and asking if she was ok since I was getting these short responses. She answered hatefully, told me that nothing was wrong and I told her to call me later. She went really cold and I got off the phone before I got stupid.

My question is that Thursday she was kissing my ass; called me by nickname, wanted to talk and text. Friday we kissed, no sex, and she seemed distant. Saturday she complained of being sick but everything seemed fine, lay in bed and she climbed on my chest and rubbed me very nicely. When I left she walked me to the door and got the side peck, said she was sick and I replied that I am too. Then, Medusa showed up this morning. Absolute bitch! What do I do now? When she was on, she was the best gf, last week or so after my implosion, not worth a damn. How do I get her sweet side back? WTF happened to this girl, is she just crazy? Am I crazy (don't answer that because I have issues)? Can this be saved?

I was eating breakfast and thought background might be in order. She is 37 and I am 40. I am retired (medically sent home from the Army but made some very wise investments and ended up owning a business I sold) and money is no issue and no I didn't pay for last night and really haven't paid for much. Divorced 4 year for her and 3 years for me. My ex cheated which could explain my failed few relationships because of trust issues. 3 kids for me and 2 kids for her. Her ex makes tons of cash and drags her court just for the fun of it, he also emotionally abused her (could explain her retreating because I imploded) and she works a low paying job, she is stressed about money and has been honest about it but has never asked or mentioned money from me. I go to school working on a MBA and studying to take the CPA exam to see about starting a new career, she is HS educated. She is beautiful at times to me and other times she is just ok, she is a little chunky but I love her body. I have no issues meeting women but don't trust because of my ex cheating on me and stole a chunk of change, very carefully because of women wanting someone to provide for them and their kids while they sit home (ex did that too). I do martial arts 3 times a week and run 3-5 miles the other 3 days a week with Sunday off. I eat extremely healthy and she is a take-out person (works till 6:30 and too stressed to cook).

I only have girl friends. Yes, at one point of another we met because I slept with them, I have asked their advise and they all think I am crazy to be with this girl. I even have a girl that I dated a month before I met this girl, just didn't work out between, she met someone and I met my gf and we now friends, that calls and texts me often then my GF. Even she thinks I should run for the hills. I don't know what it is about this girl and I asked her when we first started if she was witch or something that cast a spell on me but I really like this girl.

It sounds like she's really got you and she doesn't really sound like too much of a healthy person to be emotionally involved with.

Maybe she went cold again to punish you for the message and relationship change and for being a bit distant when she was kissing your arse? Seems like perhaps she wants you to be completely entwined around her little finger. I don't really know, I'm only speaking from personal experiences of hot and cold gfs, but those were only vaguely similar.

I was thinking a freeze out, didn't realize I was actually doing one this past week that I gave in to. I know I need to be more occupied or less available for her and her needs. My newest friend, the girl I dated (just so everyone knows, we went to HS together 20 years but reconnected 22 years later) and calls/texts me more then my gf was telling me about her bf and how she shit went not her way and he is kissing her ass this morning because she basically put him on a freeze (she is really a crazy little latina chicka), that is when I thought that I should put my gf on a freeze to not reward her shitty behavior (which I assume because I left last night).

Update, as if anyone cares since no one replied to begin with....

She texted last night that she couldn't do it anymore. I agreed and was moving on when I got in a long text session on how she feels like we have grown apart and I explained it was her idea to take a break not mine. I was respecting that break. She seemed to back down but still didn't know to do.

We texted all day and I finally just had enough. I let her know my expectations and that I could not work this relationship on my own, that I needed help. She agreed that she needs to help more. Well, it was spotty at best this afternoon till I asked if we could talk. She called and I pushed her to make a decision (bad idea? I don't care, I needed to end this ride up and down). She was back and forth saying she should be alone and i said it's cool if another guy is what she wanted and she got mad at me for implying it, but she said she say a therapist yesterday that told her with all the stress she should be alone to deal with all her issues. She warned me of this when we start dating that she does this alone and wanting someone. Well, I said that I will make it for us, she agreed and I asked if that was what she wanted, she said yes and I said ok. Got off the phone. Don't know who broke up with who but it's over.

Who knows where the road leads us now or if we ever cross paths. Something tells me we will in a few weeks when the fear sits in that i am not there or chasing her, seems like what she has done with guys in the past.

Your best bet is to just leave it and move on.

Accept it, take the time you need before rushing into anything else. I think immediately moving on to another girl can be detrimental after a break up with someone you really cared about, I think you've gotta take a little time to grieve before you're ready to move on.