I've been dating this girl for 2 months now and I've had a few issues here and there, decided to post it up, received a video and realised some crazy shit happening to me, I'm glad i figured them out but i wanna ask some tips on how to avoid them again.

I'm 22 years old, i have a lot of experience, outgoing person with alot of ambition, social, honest, direct, ...
She's 18 years old, hasn't had a real relationship yet, shy, jealous, hasn't got a good father figure, tries to get recognition through strange attempts, would get vengeance for jealousy.

Despite what I write down, I consider my relationship 80% pro, 20% con, i think the 20% con is because of me, i took her problems lightly and never threw down a line she couldn't cross, i have been slowly regaining ground and i am putting limits on certain behaviour, it helps.

I feel that when i got into this relationship, i was a beast, i had everything going for me, girls, outs, lots of mates, just all-in-all great weekends. When i met this girl and we got together, i stopped going out, having fun etc... Sorta felt like my goal was archieved, but it wasn't. I took it down a very unhealthy road and have realised it soon enough not to damage the relationship in case i change back to where i was. I found out that i was having a huge ass one-itus and that i even became jealous at the end (which went from nada to alot). I decided to reflect my feelings and where i got 'em from and it seems i'm not happy anymore, the relationship is fine, but my lifestyle is bothering me. I also realised i've done the exact same thing in my past 2 relationships and both ended bad because of things getting repetitive, boring, etc...

I'm gonna quickly go make my exam and get back to my story after, if you're interested, feel free to check up on my analysis and give me some feedback.

First of all there are quite a few red flags in your initial description of this girl and my first piece of advise is to be very careful. Her age and lack of a father figure spell trouble and I would strongly recommend avoiding emotionally investing in her at this stage.

Secondly you have completely lost sight of improving yourself and you have to regain this. Put yourself first, get something arranged with your friends without this girl and ensure you have interests outside of her. It will be healthier for you and healthier for any relationship you are a part of, remember it was the good life you were enjoying before that allowed you to get this girl to start with.

Finally just don't fall for the trap of trying to "change" this girl or mould her into long term relationship material, if she is ready for this she will show it with her actions (girls often say what you want to hear but ensure her actions match this too). Girls this age will make mistakes and it's a brave man who tries to tie them down.

Every single post I make lately involves me referring to "my last girl" and I am going to do it again...

My advice is do not get emotionally invested in this girl. You will fuck up. A lack of a good male role model in her life is a massive red flag combined with her age. I had a similar thing with my last girl.

I too, reached a point after one minor jealousy issue on my part where I was like "Ok, get back on track, regain control" and then I got sucked straight back in. My only advice is don't open up to her, don't let her in and don't get emotionally invested whatever you do, it will be a most unpleasant headfuck.

If she has no father figure, she will probably subconsciously chase emotionally unavailable men, I am no psychologist, but that seems to be the case with my experience.

To paraphrase Heywood Jablowme:

If you get to the point where you think "She isn't like all the others" and "I don't need to play games" or "I can open up to her and trust her" THIS IS WHEN YOU WILL FUCK IT UP IRREPARABLY!!!!! Especially with a girl like this. It's a cookie cutter scenario of the relationship and subsequent meltdown I just went through.