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It's really hard to say because you haven't said what you were actually doing when this happened, or more importantly, what you had been doing in the minutes leading up to this.
That being said. I can only go off generalities.
Girls won't leave unless they want to or have to. In a social venue scene, it's rarely bc they have to. So yes, you are mucking this up somewhere. But it may or may NOT be what you are doing directly before this. Sure it could be the current conversation, but likely it is not. Think for a second....if the girl were attracted and having fun, even if the conversation lulls or something, no big deal, she'll even pick it up again (huge IOI right?).
But girls don't want to be blatently rude...most of us don't. So they'll flatter you and stick around a bit, either out of courtesy or hoping it'll get better, but most likely because they legit don't want to be rude.
Simply put....one of two things happened.
1) You did not do enough attraction.
2) The girls have not been qualified
The second one is rough, because they won't qualify themselves unless there's some interest or attraction, but lacking either one of these will surely lead to the girl running away. If you fail to do either of these sufficiently, then you've effectively accomplished the same thing...you're just another guy chatting them up (yeah maybe with some high energy or whatever, but not proper gaming).
You say that you were drunk and that your friend had been in a fight. I'm picturing you guys having a really high energy. But a lot of guys use getting drunk as a crutch to be highly energetic, which although is way better than not talking, it is what a lot of guys do. So in a venue where the pickings are slim, you're a sure bet, but in a venue with a lot of high energy guys, you have compromised your ability to evaluate the situation.
You're a smart guy it would seem. You have had success many times before, so I'm sure that that was a factor.
I'm grateful for all advice and tip I can get so it's ok to generalize and I think you're right, I didn't build that much of attraction and I'm not that charming when I'm drunk.
So from now on it's sober game for me and I will try to be better at establish attraction.