| Very well written post, also very helpful that you made the colour markings to make it more readable. Carefully described situations. Although why mention all the crap like poker and indian food if she shuts up . . . Usually it is the girl who is full of contradictions, and requires the man to put her in check. Unfortunately, egalitarian issues have diminished the power of the legal framework to empower the man in doing so. Take a fire-arrow, put it in a bucket, light the fuse on fire. Now take a run at the bucket and kick it as hard as you can. Trace the trail of the arrow with your eyes; now you have an idea of the consistency of the female mind.
Imagine a bowl full of hundreds of small twigs and cocktail-prickers.
Draw a square with an entrance (approach) at one end, and an exit (having sex) at the other.
Turn the bowl upside down in this square. Now find a path from the entrance to the exit.
You will say: "Yay! I found the exit. Let me draw this on a map, let me describe the strategy!"
However as soon as the woman's mood changes, in reality, this means that a whole new bowl of twigs is turned upside down upon your maze, the wind breezes through and your map will be useless.
And now keep in mind that every woman has her own bowl filled with different twigs of an infinite variety of crooks and angles and shapes and sizes.
What works one day, is totally ineffectual the other. Sayings that light up her heart at one moment, can make her go cold the next. Things that one woman falls for, knock the other off. This is because it is impossible to apply a rational foundational strategy to a psyche that is inconsistent with itself. It is like taking away a steering wheel from a ship and trying to apply it to a raft that drifts upon a roiling ocean.
The ancient civilizations and philosophers knew that I was right, from Plato and Aristotle to Confucius, Montesquieu and Rousseau, not to mention the religions like Christianity and Islam. They all emphasize a strong need for family bonds and controlled environments to bring up the women into being reliable wives. Let the facts of history speak for themselves, and observe that the Romans introduced Lex Papia Poppaea to halt the decline of their civilization once it began to set in.
At some points, you will have a lucky streak, rest in comfort with a young lass in your arms, and forget my words, sleeping in the illusion to have found the "magic formula." But at other times, an uneasy feeling will well up in you, and at those times you will remember my words. In time this feeling will swell to the insight that I was right.
It is not because your reason is impotent but because the subject matter is irreconcilable with rationality. If you say "where did I go wrong?", you are like Lancelot searching for the Holy Grail. There is no Holy Grail, no magic formula or sure-fire strategy. The only thing you can do is having confidence, do many approaches, scout for enthusiasm and stop wasting effort if it doesn't lead anywhere. Keep up personal hygiëne, build up an interesting life for yourself, master the art of conversation. Be a fisherman. Throw out a big net and you will eventually reel something up.
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