Hi guys!
First up, I'm not too proud to admit I'm a complete Noob to PUA, I have just moved to a new town and given a few online dating sites a go in an attempt to build a new social circle and practice some game. I'm pretty sure I've stuffed every encounter up
until I started reading this forum.
Anyhow, my profile is quite funny and quirky so I've had a reasonable reply rate. I think I know where I went wrong on my first one, she sent me bulk messages (like 50 each day) and I replied in bulk (the equivalent) , this went on for a few days while we decided to meet for coffee. The day before the meet she didn't message at all, then explained she had a family thing on, I re-confirmed the coffee date for tomorrow and all was good. That morning she said she had to babysit her nephew and couldn't meet up, that it would look more like next week and she'd let me know. It's been two days and no messages at all. I was a bit disappointed but thought it best not to reply yet.
Question: I'm guessing I already crashed and burned beyond salvaging, true? Is there something I should try? Or just accept my losses and move on?
More to the point, after reading some pointers on this forum I tried a different approach (i.e. not 50 messages qualifying myself), such as the "One choice, M&Ms, Nutella or strawberries line" and the "I was thinking of stealing a monkey from a zoo, I've always wanted a monkey, you in?" line (pure gold by the way). It seemed to go well, and given my current experience, I think it went
very well, But I'd like an outside point of view, here's the conversation ver batum (bearing in mind, my opener was written before reading these forums, else I would have just opened with the M&Ms, Nutella & strawberries, and shall do in future):
Me (9:13am):Hi, you seem like a really nice person. My name's Sinsear, how are you? (like I said, lame, had not consulted these forums, typical AFC message, luckily, my profile bailed me out)
HB (9:17pm): Hey! I just read your profile, quite amusing! I'm well thanks 
Me (10:17pm): Haha! Yeah, I started off writing a serious one, but everyone "likes to laugh" and "likes fun", so I thought I'd just have some fun with it. Ok, you can only choose one (no cheating!) - M&Ms, Nutella or strawberries? Sounds strange but it will give me a deep insight into your inner psyche (maybe).
HB (10:19pm): Strawberries cos I'm dieting!!! Lmao!
HB (10:21pm): Ordinarily I would say Nutella!
HB (10:21pm): I'm curious
Me (10:26pm): Good thing you're not a cat
Me (10:27pm): You know, technically, Nutella covered strawberries qualify as one item, just sayin...
HB (10:32pm): Haha! Good taste!
Me (10:38pm): I think so! Any super exciting plans for the weekend? (It's Thursday, I gauging if I should try and hit her up this weekend or not)
HB (10:40pm): I have a christening! I'm super excited cos... goes on about niece
HB (10:41pm): U? So are you going to keep me guessing about ur original question? Lol
Me (10:44pm): Oh nice! I was planning on going to a zoo and kidnapping a monkey, I've always wanted a monkey! You in? We can get you one too? (I can work around the christening).
HB (10:46pm): Unless you're planning for that zoo to be Sydney I'll have to give it a miss this time but I'd much rather a lion or tiger. Think ur up to the job?! I don't think anyone would notice (Sydney is a 6 hour drive away, clearly this weekend is out)
Me (10:48pm): Depends, how big is the largest purse you own?
HB (10:50pm): I want a baby one!
Me (10:51pm): That's just crazy enough to work then, but only just.
HB (10:51pm): Ur funny!
Me (10:53pm): A monkey would be easier, just put pants on him and tell him to "act natural" as we walk out
HB (10:54pm): Lmao! U would be good at writing scripts for movies! what do you do?
(I'm actually in the Australian military, but there is a stereotype in this town that Army guys cause trouble, so I went with a truthful, but vague option for now)
Me (10:59pm):I'm a disposable lighter repairman, we get a lot of work over New Years but it kind of dies off for the other 11 months of the year. Nah, jokes, nothing nearly as interesting or exhilarating as that. I work for the government in training development and implementation (I'm an Army instructor, so, not really a lie)
HB (11:02pm): Sounds important! I'm in media. I've never been shy or quiet so it sort of suits!
Me (11:04pm) Not really, I spend most days standing around broken photocopiers and walking around with a clipboard trying to look busy. Sounds like you chose the right career path
HB (11:06pm): Love it. Would change it for the world. It's taken me to lots of different places and because I have so many different hats to wear every day is completely different. Keeps me on my toes.
HB (11:12pm): That was totally a "me, me, me" response! Indulgent.
Me (11:16pm): Haha! So what if it was? You're happy with where you are, nothing wrong with that!
HB (11:18pm): So....I should probably try and get some beauty sleep cos I gotta drive to Sydney tomorrow. It has been nice chatting to you. Do u have Facebook?
Me (11:25pm): You too! Drive safe. Yes, I have been known to dabble in the Facebook social media device on occasion.
HB (11:26pm): XXXX XXXX (HB's full name) if you wanna add me chat soon
So, as I said before, being a noob I thought this was a huge success for me thus far. I was particularly curious about the "me me me" statement, as though she second guessed her response?
What I'd like to know is if any of the more experienced members can point me in the right direction given this initial 'success' i.e. things I could have handled better, opportunities I missed, when I should have shut up etc. Any and all advice is welcome!
Sinsear
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