I could rant hours and hours about all the mistakes I have made with this girl because she was the first girl I chased in my life so I didn't know about techniques and just acted all wrong.

The situation
She has had a crush on someone else for a long time and constantly tries to win him over but she always fails and will continue failing according to her best friend whom I talked to. She thinks I'm a genuinely nice and great guy and she trusts me quite a lot but wants us to be friends. I have been at her birthday as a surprise and she really liked that and she has also been at my place with a few of her friends. However, when I ask her out one-on-one she always rejects with all sorts of excuses. I started chasing about half a year ago (at that time she said: "if you want to hang out as friends".) Problem is, she has liked me in the past and I think she still likes me a little bit.

My question

How do I get her to give me a chance and go on a date with me? She'll need to realise she's missing an important opportunity. Do note that her best friend (also a girl) knows of my feelings and might be able to help me out. I don't want aggresive answers because I don't want to hurt her feelings. We're both 16 y.o. I can give more information if necessary.

I've just been/am in a similar sitch bro and unfortunately it aint nice but best thing is move on as there are plrnty more fish

BUT if you really want to give it a shot what I did this month is kinda doing that anyway... I froze her out for two weeks then she double texted me like "hey how you been havent spoken " but still I'm replying briefly and keeping her waiting to show I'm busy, you have to "lose the girl to win her" paradoxically speaking as she will miss the contact. DHV by doing this and hanging out + having a good time and flirting with loads of other girls so she sees that you're a sexual attractive guy.

But tbh if she's LJBF'd you it means you need to build more sexual attraction mate to change her perception of you from average guy to attractive interesting alluring man. Do this by DHVing and showing what a good guy you are. Then you can isolate, escalate and build up to a date. Maybe go on a double date with her best mate if she's uncomfortable with one and one but the reason she would be is again not attracted enough so build that up man, increase it!!

Good luck bro lets see if we can get out these mofo LJBFs but keep an open mind cos odds are the best advice is simply move on I'm afraid, who knows maybe she'll develop feelings for you when you occupied developing yourself and DHVing?

All the best
T_A_M

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Thanks for the response! Hitting on other girls will probably not do the trick since I'm not that kind of person, I'm rather shy and reserve my compliments for girls who deserve them. But I will try your other suggestions! Good luck and please do tell me when you make any progress with your own situation!

Austin Powers,

After reading your post I am going to offer a few suggestions. First, you MUST stop chasing her. I recently read a PUA book about "PRIZING" and being the "PRIZE". Its GOLD. You must always be in control of the frame (the interaction or meaning of the interaction). She must look at you like wow, ok, this guy has a lot going for him and I AM LUCKY, being the girl, to spend TIME WITH HIM (not the other way around). How do you do this? DHV like the other guy posted, and like he suggested too, HIT ON OTHER GIRLS. -- This isnt your kind of personality?? All that is saying to her (the girl u want) and everyone else is that ur a nice guy who doesnt get pussy. Which means she doesnt view u as a viable mate. Thus you are where you are with her... FRIENDS! And honestly thats where you should be....

If you want this girl (or any girl) you need to step out of your "COMFORT" zone. PUA is about you, finding yourself, not the girls. The girls are a reflection of YOURSELF. Shes telling you she needs a man. A man who is going to fuck her brains out and then not give a fuck the next day and go hit on / talk 2 five other bitches. Not in your personality? Me either... but I have learned WHAT WORKS and WHAT DOESNT WORK. That shit works. And you dont even have to do it for real. PERCEPTION is reality. As long as she respectives you as a "player" in her mind it is reality. Even tho your not talking to or banging 5 other girls.

Girls are attracted to guys who APPEAR to have a large social network, plenty of viable options, and who have self confidence/humor/personality/ AKA THE ALPHAS. Why you ask? because if her man doesnt have this.... he is WEAK. If hes weak he cant protect her. If he cant protect her she and her child's lives are in danger. Thus she must seek another viable male to take care of her.

This is all so basic and simple yet so miss understood and complicated.

**To end this convo I would suggest you do some INNER game/searching and find out WHO you really are. You cant give yourself to another until you know who you are first. Your probably young, still trying to find yourself. Thats fine. Take your time. But start inside, and your results will change outside.

GL
Duke