Met a girl, dated her, she left for the holidays to another to be with her family. She thought a lot about me and realized she really likes me, she gets back and we start a relationship. Everything is magically, like is always is, then she tells me about a guy that she dated texting her and confusing he has feeling for her. She reads me the texts and she tells him that she really likes me. She calls him, when she is too busy to call me, to tell him not to post stupid shit on FB and not to cause problems. I was like, why not just delete the problem before it starts (been 2 years since they dated and he cheated on her for the off-on relationship they had for a few months. She says he is psycho and just "stand up to him." I am not a pussy and prefer hands then words but why do I need to stand up to him, she should eliminate him and remove the problem.

I suffer from PTSD and bipolar disorder, thank you Army and Iraq, so little things eat me and I start having some very violent dreams. This little problems turns a little more aggressive to a point I confront her. To solve the problem, she deleted his number and blocks him on FB. She cries telling me I am the only guy she wants. A few days later, I have become really bad, mind is gone and I am taking my meds but stress of school starting and this guy, eat me alive. I lost control on myself and took it out on her, nothing physical but I did raise my temper. The next morning I get I love you texts and all day she is the best gf one could ask. I went over that night, we had sex and slept in the same bed. Thursday comes and I rarely hear from her, she says she is busy but not too busy to be on FB posting stupid pinterest crap. She tells me she is sick and might not be a good idea to come over that night. Day goes on and she wants me to come over. I have since calmed down and have crashed enough to know my wrong doings, I apologize and she seems to forgive and says that we will figure out how to deal with this, never had to deal with someone like this. She is really scared and mentions taking things slow, but then wants me to spend the night, so I do.

Friday comes and I don't get called the nicknames and she is complaining she is sick. She talk off and on a little more frequent then the day before. I finish martial arts and that morning when I left her house she asked to come over that night, we had also planned this earlier. Now, driving home she tells me I should go home and we will see each other the next day. Very few I love you's and seems belabored when she does.

Kind of confused about everything. She goes from mentioning marriage, getting a bigger house to be big enough for her 2 kids and my 3 kids to now, it just her searching for a house. I came out and asked her that this taking it
"slow" won't last long and she agreed but she is trying to deal with my PTSD and the stories others tell her about soldiers like me. WTF do I do? PTSD is still kicking in, almost to paranoia ....advise please!

You should do whatever you can / need to do to resolve your issues man. Being in a relationship can only make things worse for you at the moment.

I mean , on top of the PTSD and bipolarity , last thing you need is a girl fucking with your mind.
Simply take your time and resolve your own issues , that start hunting again.

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and pretty much answers your dillema. Her interest in you dropped, the interest in the other guy went up. Don't know if the ground for marriage is solid. Is it? Just go with your gut.
Perhaps you should back down a bit, don't be too available, pay more attention to your hobbies and, more important, take control of yourself.
It seems that displaying anger now and then works for you (her I love you's after being pissed off). Just don't display anger too often.

Thank you all, we went out last night things went well. My daughter says she a is kind of an angry person but my kid was dealing with her boyfriend cheating on her. I spent the night, gf was sick and told me she prefers to not cuddle and kinda of like to be left alone. I slept on my side and every once in awhile I felt her butt and leg reach out to me,. I left this morning to us saying I love you and stupidly I asked if you still wanted to marry me, I got "no" and "I don't know". I left hurt. I have decided to back off, I haven't texted or called her to let her calm down or miss me, not calls or texts from her but she said she would be cleaning her garage. I want to apologize for my actions but also want to use the technique that nothing happened and see where it goes. Any suggestions or am I doing this wrong?

You shouldn't reward bad behaviour with more attention. Withdraw attention. Go No Contact for at least 3 weeks, don't reply to her calls or texts. Call or drop by afterwards, casually. Don't let her know you went no contact on purpose. Say you've been busy with the kids or something else but make it plausible if it comes up. If she doesn't come back, her interest level is way too low and it's not salvageable.
Imo, you should drop her and just find somebody else. Use the NC period to find someone who's a better fit for you.

That was what I was thinking. Last night, without my knowledge even thought she tells me she told me, she went to birthday party for a friend at a bar. Posted pictures of it on FB. When I called her on it, she merely said she told me. She said she needed to time and was going back to bed, it was at 0630 this morning. I asked her if I should pick up the few things I have at her house and she said if I wanted but it was not necessary (left me with hope). I told her I loved her and she replied back she loved me. When I woke up this morning, no text/call which was not usual, but of course she was posting her usual pinterest bs on FB, that is when I decided no contact and see where it leads me. Thank you for affirming my thoughts,

pay no attention to what she is saying, pay attention only to how she acts. You have to go out, find somebody else, then dump her.

Got the text this morning that said she texted me yesterday and even told me about the party. She needs a break and the call this morning freaked out (her or I, no clue but assume her). I told her I understand and will respect her break. All I could say. I guess it is really over to me, even though a side of me believes it is just a break util I get my PTSd/head screwed back on. I know, I a dreaming she'll come back.

I would move on man its obvious she still keeps in contact with the other guy or still has some feelings towards him which will end up screwing you in the long run, get your own problems sorted out and while your doing that go out and start talking to new girls

Update!!! I know, so damn quickly....

I finally had a break down, freaked out and Dr's. Long story short, I sought help from my therapist (just started seeing her 2 months ago for my memories) and she got me in a real psychiatrist an hour later (VA ones suck if anyone has been there, you are either bi-polar or schizophrenic). This Dr put me a new regime to treat me. I don't know if it's the placebo effect or the pill actually working (usually takes 3-8 weeks for full effect on psychotropic pills), today I completed 11 chapters of homework and tests for an Auditing class I am in (studying for my MBA and to sit the CPA exam). I was in the zone.

I did make one mistake. I posted on FB yesterday that I appreciated the Dr's and the care I was given. About an hour later the girl texted me to see how I was doing. Small talk and asked her how she was doing. Stressed from work, family and us. I caved in and told her that normally I would go out and get a new girl (she knows my history) but this time I am taking my mental state seriously and that I only wanted her. I followed up with I was doing this (Dr and head stuff) for me and not for her but it might help us in the end. She responded I know, to which I am figuring me doing this for me. I didn't respond back for a few hours and caved in and texted her that I am sorry for my "transgressions", yes I used a broad term. Haven't heard from her since and haven't texted her. I even went so far as to delete my FB app, FB messenger, and FB camera from my phone and had a fried change my password so I wouldn't go on to "stalk" her profile to see what she is doing.

Good? Bad? I don't know but y'all have been good to me and my rants even though I am new. Any replies would be great and thank you guys for all the advice. I have read other threads and y'all are a decent group of guys!

I AM AN IDIOT!!! She called while I was at martial arts and left a message. I waited but called her back. We talked about the new meds I am on and how I am feeling. Good stuff..then I asked if we were together and got the it takes a special person to be with someone with my condition and she doesn't know if she can do it. I think I failed to mention that this girl has PTSD from an accident and ex-husband beating her and has a little more issues, but she might not be able to handle me? I call BS, there is someone new and she's trying to figure out which one of us is the better deal.

Well, I turned the tables in the middle of the night. Woke up and Sent her a private message on FB knowing that she would read it and and changed our relationship status to "It's complicated". The message read that I am actually glad we are taking the break because I am early in my SPAM with civilian dr's that specialize in vets. Told her I was sorry for my outburst and that I will control my disease and no longer let it control me. Then left it with I'd love to share all the new experiences I am going to be going through with her one day. I am also completely committed to the N/C rule, not going to stray from it.

What do y'all think? I have come to the realization that I probably won't win her back, would like to but got to get me right is more important. Any ideas or suggestions.